What does that mean? That while I am in the midst of whatever is going on, whatever is bothering me, I am also viewing it from a point not in the midst of.
Example: My landlord treats me like a dirty rag. That is a sentence from he midst of… From the side I can see that it is his self defense. He is a bad landlord who needs this property to suck the money out of so he and his family can live the way they want to live. I can understand his point of view. It doesn’t mesh well with mine, but such is life. But the dirty rag thing is the figment of my imagination.
I am peaceful, at least have been for the past year or so. Yesterday and today are different.
My first thought is wtf? Did I lose my vibration? I am restless, I am harboring nasty thoughts, I am angry… not peaceful at all.
Enter the special vantage point: I can see that I am scratching myself, I am slapping myself… the mosquito invasion is getting to me. The bait station has arrived, I have set it up, but the info sheet says it will start catching mosquitoes in 2-3 weeks… Fasten my seat belt, world… I am not my usual nice self.
And that whole situation has suddenly made me understand a principle, Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, that until now was just buzz words to me.
This theory says that a human being has all kinds of needs. Physiological, safety, love and belonging, esteem and self-actualization needs.
The most important aspect of this theory, from the point of view of what’s happening to me, is that unless the “lower” needs are fulfilled, one has no energy and no real desire for the higher needs, like self-actualization.
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is often portrayed in the shape of a pyramid, with the largest and most fundamental levels of needs at the bottom, and the need for self-actualization at the top.
The most fundamental and basic four layers of the pyramid contain what Maslow called “deficiency needs” or “d-needs”: esteem, friendship and love, security, and physical needs.
With the exception of the most fundamental (physiological) needs, if these “deficiency needs” are not met, the body gives no physical indication but the individual feels anxious and tense.
Maslow’s theory suggests that the most basic level of needs must be met before the individual will strongly desire (or focus motivation upon) the secondary or higher level needs.
Maslow also coined the term Metamotivation to describe the motivation of people who go beyond the scope of the basic needs and strive for constant betterment.
Metamotivated people are driven by B-needs (Being Needs), instead of deficiency needs (D-Needs).
And although I am mostly one of these metamotivated people, in the presence of a mosquito invasion (no safety), with frequent visits from my landlord (no respect), it’s been harder to concentrate and allocated attention and focus on being needs.
I have been teaching with this methodology combined with an activator each session. The lessons were delivered in a webinar and the webinar recordings are available for purchase.
The best way to do this course is to do one webinar a week so you have time to practice the principles given in the homework.
The course is delivered in a membership site and you can sign up here
You can cancel any time. You get one lesson per week. If you do your homework, I can guarantee that your vibration will rise and your experience of life will change dramatically.
Go and buy it. The first week you’ll get 4 webinars, I want you to get all the background, and everything you need.