Summary: In this article I talk about a turning point that unstucks you from inaction and puts you in the driver’s seat of your life. I use my own example of taking extraordinary (to me) measures where I normally would go depressed instead
It is hard to pinpoint what it takes for someone to actually do something, something out of the ordinary… or for that matter even ordinary, like doing your own work.
In one of my books 1 the “hero” sees the issue, sees the cost of the issue not handled, but until he becomes clear that unless he does something, no one will… and a lot of people will die.
Most people, even in a case like this, will resort to saying something like… I am not big enough (strong enough… anything enough) to do something… but our “hero” acts and saves all those people from dying.
Most of us live in a “someone will take care of it” or “someone will take care of me” or “something will happen and it will be all good” frame of mind. But…
- it is normally not true… and our not acting is the cause of unheard of hardships for us, for others, and make the planet go out in a hand-basket. Just look at all the things that you step over saying “somebody’s job must be to take care of it…”
The number of typos, broken links, etc, that my readers don’t report to me… Example that hurts me.
Mother, god, angels, the government isn’t coming to handle it… You are your brother’s keeper.
- even if it hurts you, even when you see the cost of not action, you have no sense of urgency, no sense of “I am the one”.
One of the “forces”, one of the incredibly strong energies that keep me going is the sense that if I won’t do it, no one will, maybe ever.
But before a force like that can kick in, you have to have the capacity to care… do you?
I was “born” depressed, discouraged, and resigned…
I don’t know if you knew that about me, but I get depressed, discouraged really easily. Life Force is not real strong in me, maybe because I was born a preemie, or maybe it is just not very strong.
I don’t do a lot for myself… I am not very needy or demanding, or particular about much of anything about myself: I am like a hermit: simple life.
But I definitely am mobilized and motivated by doing what only I can do…
Until a few years ago though that only included work. Then I realized one day that “if it is to be, it is up to me.”
I first said (finally I noticed! duh) that no one is coming to rescue me… and believe me, I have been putting myself in the position of needing rescue all my life. But if no one is coming to rescue me, then even rescuing myself is my own job.
Why is this a timely message… for me?
I have been making misstep after misstep for the past month… I guess I forgot about my ‘machine’ that automatically wants me to go to a state where I have to start from nothing again… 2
I managed to keep my machine in check for almost a year, but the past month I have put myself in the position of going down the “drain” a few times, last time this past weekend.
It did not HAPPEN to me, I actually caused it. Caused it by forgetting that my machine automatically goes into self-destruction… your machine does what your machine does… mine is a self-destruction machine. And I forgot that I am on my own, I cannot and should not count on anyone’s sympathy, help, or even good will…
I invited the wrath of some amazon sellers, who went and reported my remedies as illegal and violating the policies of Amazon.com.
It is not true, but amazon, once someone reports you, removes the products, and they stop you from selling.
In a US court, you are innocent until proven guilty, on Amazon: you are guilty until you prove yourself innocent…
Haggling, dealing with authority, and such is not my style, not my strength, so, normally, this incident would mean, I am out of business, I am out of income, I am screwed.
But using this principle, that “mother isn’t coming…” and “if it is to be, it is up to me”… I decided to start the long process of haggling to have my business and products restored.
If you think you can provide advice, or help, please comment below, or contact me directly… I can use all the help I can get.
- The cobweb by Neal Stephenson
- we all have a machine… I teach this in a webinar series that I can make available to you… if I remember where the recordings are, or what it was called, lol