Your brain will help you become an Expanding Human Being

tools and techniques for self developmentSummary: Most of us don't know who we really are. What we really want. Where to start, what to do to become an expanding human being... Here is an exercise that can be really helpful, and you could start exercising the faculties that will lead you to clarity of who you are and what you want.

"The most complex problems can be stripped to their essence through unemotional critical thinking. Successful problem solvers simplify complex problems while seeking kindergarten solutions” ~ Steve Siebold

The complex problem I have been struggling with is how to teach people to start using their faculties, start to use their brain for what it is really good for, instead of searching for answers outside of them, instead of asking questions from others.

A simple solution showed up in a conversation with a client today.

First time client, totally immersed in current culture (politically correct). When asked to share about himself he said he gave blood every two weeks and helped out with the high schoolers in his town.

Typical outward driven focus, selfless. Didn't say anything about him, other than that he wasn't an independent thinker.

I shared with him about my recent collapsed dreams with Amazon. I shared how I learned a lesson. He praised me for being tough. Then I shared with him that I had thoughts of suicide. He said that he thought I was stronger than that.

thought-policeIn Christianity, especially in Catholicism, even the thought of a sin is a sin... so Christians avoid thoughts of sin... thoughts of anything worth thinking about.

I told him that I was able to tell the difference between my thoughts and my actions, so there was no harm in thinking through any action, any reaction... including suicide, the aftermath, etc. It was actually a useful exercise.

And that's when it hit me: if I asked you to imagine situations where the decision can be confronting, revealing, ethically challenging, etc. and really look what decisions one could make, what decision you like, you dislike, you would entertain, you would be too coward to make, fearing the consequences, etc. then, through these "imaginings" you could actually start growing, start getting some self-knowledge, start telling apart what others told you and what you feel, what you think, your own judgment, and could exercise your brain, your thinking, your mental tools, your moral values, your self-awareness. You would access the thinking functions of the brain instead of the storage device mind.

Until the age of about 40 I was largely a mystery to myself, because I didn't know what I liked, what I disliked, what were my preferences, because I was cut off from my feelings. I felt so much, everything and the opposite, because I was an empath, that the only way to avoid confusion and maybe even schizophrenia, was to not feel. To suppress. To live entirely for the mental pursuits of intellectual pleasures, and otherwise be an automaton.

At exactly 40 I was refused admittance to a week-long course, because of my inability to tell the difference between thought and action. Each thought occurred to me as an action in and of itself, and I needed to be able to tell them apart, and be clear: this is just thought... this is action, sometimes totally independent of thought, not a result of thought, an action... 1

The rest is history: I have been pulling myself up by my bootstraps by being able to tell apples from oranges, myself from others, actions from thoughts, and start getting to know me, my machine, my desires, my aspirations have taken me to where I am.

distinguishing thought from actions

I want this for you. I want you to get clear distinction between thought and action

The exercise, putting yourself mentally in situation where you can test your mettle, is simple, but not necessarily easy. Your tools of imaginings are rusty, and your imagination is weak. You may even find yourself squeamish. Hesitant. Unwilling. Pretending. Trying to rig the game.

You'll get the hang of it. You'll get better at it. You'll do it like you do everything else, so most of you will quit before you start, another half will quit after tying it once, and one or two will hang in there, and grow.

How you do anything is how you do everything. This will only change you if you do it.

It should become a mode of meditation: imagine up situations, and imagine yourself in them, and go back and forth and test different choices, different actions... start getting to know yourself.

What situations? Any... the world and the internet offers up so many situations to imagine yourself in. 24 hours a day would not be enough if you wanted to play with them all.

What would you do if you were one of the relatives of the lost Malaysian airline plane? What would you do if your boy friend got ill and he were a nasty patient? What would you do if you swallowed your wedding ring? What would you do if you found out you had cancer?

Look at the scenarios through your own eyes. Then switch and look at it from outside. The switch again and look at it from the eyes of another person in the story, or outside of the story. 2

PsychodramaExpect a growth spurt once you figure this out, once you get the hang of it. And expect lots of fun. Much like in a psychodrama class... on steroid.

Spend as much time with each situation as you need, until you get clear what the "real" you would do in that situation.

If you are in the coaching program, I am looking forward to working with you on this. If you aren't, you can get help through the comments section.

PS: Another article with specific exercises is already lined up for you, and will be published in an hour or two, as soon as I edit it so it makes sense... hopefully

Footnotes

  1. Until that point I was thinking of every thought as action. For example, thoughts of violence considered an action would make me a murderer... and yet I never murdered anyone. Thoughts of suicide would send me to the emergency room thinking I needed help. You may have different thoughts. Delusion of grandeur is a result of thoughts and is an illness itself. Thinking yourself kind when you are really nasty is a confusion similar to this. Thinking yourself stuck but there is no sticking in reality is a confusion similar to this.
  2. In my ponderings about suicide looking at the fact through your eyes was a really educational experience. It also helped that some celebrity's girl friend just committed suicide... I could see being plastered on front pages of newspapers... like being naked in public. Do it, it's amazing!

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

award winning architect, magazine publisher, transformational and spiritual coach and teacher, self declared Avatar

4 thoughts on “Your brain will help you become an Expanding Human Being”

  1. Sophie, I need this. I need to dive deep inside my own skin, and my own life and see what’s there. I know I can benefit from thinking and feeling for myself, instead if cutting myself off based on fears and Tree of Knowledge training. This is an adult conversation.

  2. Sophie, the past few articles with exercises were so helpful to me. I’ve started doing these exercises with my kids and it’s amazing what it does to us. All of a sudden our imagination goes wild and at the same time shows us how much we need to learn and put those skills to work.

    There would be times I read and re-read some of your article and I can’t get it and then few days or weeks later it’s like a revelation I can see it, I am doing it. Sometimes it’s still a struggle distinguishing if it’s mind running or my brain doing some thinking or my soul is speaking. I learned from your articles and webinars that mind always argues and compares so if I hear it doing it I know it’s mind and I let it chatter while I put my attention in to something else. I know though every day it all gets clearer. I can see it clearly now how learning, studying, reading or watching something is useless. I need to do it myself. I need to work alongside someone instead of just taking notes. I need to experience something working instead of believing someone that it does. Forever grateful. Thank you.

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