Courage, confidence, audacity? Which do you lack?

When something isn’t working then there is ALWAYS something that you don’t know

You_Dont_Know_What_You_Dont-knowRemember that pie chart of everything that is knowable in the Universe? A tiny slice of that pie is what you know, and you know that you know it. Another tiny slice is what you know that you don’t know… so you could ask questions, you could take a course, read a book, and then you would know it.

A slightly bigger slice is what you don’t know that you know… so when I ask a question, you are sure that you don’t know… so you don’t even think… 🙁

A slightly bigger even slice is what you know wrong. and you are sure that you are correct… and you are screwed.

And about 90% of the whole pie is what you don’t know that you don’t know. The guy next to you may be able to see glimpses of it, but it is all in your blind spot…

Today’s Monday Morning Memo talks about such a blind spot many of you probably suffer about.

Courage is Security Plus Audacity 1

“Cream rises to the top” is what we tell talented people who are frightened. It’s a lie, of course, but it makes them feel like they have a chance.

Confidence and courage are not the same thing.

Confidence is trust in your ability.

courage-240x240Courage is to have such security in your identity that you’re willing to risk open failure. “I’m okay with who I am and I know my intentions are honorable. Que sera, sera. 2

children-words-dictionaries-thesauruses-languages-define-jlvn1479lConfidence springs from ability.
Courage springs from identity.
And the energizing fluid of courage is audacity.

Public speaking requires it.
Singing demands it.
And successful advertising depends on it.

The technical term for the fear of speaking – and of being judged by what you say – is glossophobia, from the Greek glossa, meaning tongue, and phobos, fear or dread.

We must elevate you above this fear or you will never successfully advertise a business, promote an event, or advance your career.

Stage fright isn’t just the fear of performing in front of large groups. It’s also the reluctance to make a presentation to a group of co-workers.

Dr. David Carbonell says: “Stage fright is like being heckled mercilessly during your performance, and getting into an argument with the heckler, except that it’s your own mind doing the heckling. You get so involved in your internal struggle that you don’t get involved with the actual performance. Most people with performance anxiety get tricked into focusing on themselves, struggling against anxiety in a vain effort to get rid of it… One of the keys to mastering stage fright is to become truly involved in, and focused on, your material. Not on yourself.”

Unless you’re a major celebrity, the audience didn’t really come to see you; they came to hear the material you brought them.

It’s not about you at all. It’s about the material. Think about the material. Think about how the audience needs it. Think about the material. Think about how the audience needs it. Think about the material. Think about how the audience needs it.

Don’t let anything get in the way of the gift you brought for your audience

It’s not about you at all.

You’re only the mailman.

I said earlier that courage is, “to have such security in your identity that you’re willing to risk open failure.”

stand-upBut sometimes you need Plan B, so here it is: Commit to delivering the mail. Commitment looks exactly like courage when you’re committed to something more important than your fear. Say to yourself, “It’s okay if the audience isn’t impressed with me, as long as they’re impressed with what I brought them.”

Only a fool stands between a mother tiger and her cubs.

Be the mother tiger.

Roy H. Williams

What was the “thing” that you didn’t know that you didn’t know?

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  1. au·dac·i·ty ô?dasite-/ noun

    the willingness to take bold risks.
    “her audacity came in handy during our most recent emergency”
    synonyms: boldness, daring, fearlessness, intrepidity, bravery, courage, heroism, pluck, grit; recklessness; spirit, mettle; informal: guts, gutsiness, spunk, moxie
    “a traveler of extraordinary audacity”
    rude or disrespectful behavior; impudence.
    “she had the audacity to pick up the receiver and ask me to hang up”
    synonyms: impudence, impertinence, insolence, presumption, cheek, bad manners, effrontery, nerve, gall, defiance, temerity;
    informal: chutzpah, sass
    “he had the audacity to contradict me”
    3. this is MY take on audacity: if you don’t have audacity, then you are going along with the masses, with the commonly accepted rules of behavior, knowledge, you are sheep.

    You take things personally because sheep does. You are proud of the useless crap that is stored in your mind and fling it every time you can. You talk to hear your voice… you are ordinary, because to be extraordinary, you need audacity: the courage to step out of line.

  2. What will be will be

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

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