This is a controversial article. People will be offended. Traditions rattled. But unless someone speaks, nothing will change. I am taking on the risk to be that someone... When I see something, I can't just step over it... ok, kill me... lol
WTF are you talking about Sophie: of course it is the men! If women ran the world there would be peace... There would be love. There would be trust...
Wrong... please think again.
Who are the people we learn everything that we repeat, unconsciously, in life? 80-90% of it we learn from our mother. Or some other woman, a nanny, a wet-nurse, a grandmother.
And then, unconsciously, we play out the life-plan that these women implanted in our subconscious.
If the men of a society are vicious and cruel: you can make sure they were encouraged by their mother. I am not talking about an individual phenomenon: individuals get to be aberrated independent of a society's or culture's values. No, I am talking about the standard. The everyman. The norm. The normal.
How does that work?
I have been struggling with this for about five months. And this week I had an insight that finally sets things straight, however crooked they are... lol.
I have been observing two cultures. I won't mention names, if you don't belong to them, you'll feel ego-pride, if you belong to them you'll feel ego-anger, self-righteousness, or ego-guilt... that is not my purpose with this article.
In both cultures boys are prized. They are treated by their mother as a prince. Spoiled rotten. And the future wife is treated as a competitor. Both cultures have a reverse Oedipus syndrome: the mother is the one in love. They claim ownership over their sons, and hate, gossip about, undermine their daughters in law. They encourage bodily abuse. They rejoice over it.
What is underneath it? What perpetuates this morbid behavior?
Ego. I didn't have it any better, why should she? The same attitude towards another that allowed Rabbi Akiva's 24 thousand students to die during the plague.
In cultures where a wife's name is "shut up!" a wife will do what a wife can do.
These cultures share: the wife will give all their love to their sons, and will make sure that their son's wife won't have it any better than them.
And who perpetuates the "evil" among us is women. Mothers. Who will stop it? Mothers.
Mothers, you are the power of the physical universe.
One of my jobs is to connect you to Source where you get the love you need, want, miss, so you can let go of "loving" your sons. So you can let go of being possessive of them. So you can let go of sending your daughters into torture and abuse, willingly.
If you recognize your culture, work with me. The world won't be a better place as long as you perpetuate this evil.
The time to begin is now.