Making something wrong vs distinguishing what is so
Judging, the word, the activity, implies that there is a right and there is a wrong. There isn’t… so when you are judging, you are already involved in what we call “the Dark Side”…
I get emails from quite a few people that say that I am an angry, that I am a low vibration person because I write about people and their actions saying that they are low vibration, or whatever they say… just read my vibrational reviews.
What is missing for these people is the distinction above: being able to tell is something is a make-wrong statement or if something is a what is so statement. If something is a judgment or if something is a matter of fact of stating the facts I can glean from what I see.
One of my students has a son who is a bed-wetter. I used to be a bed-wetter, so I know a whole lot about the inner world of a bed-wetter.
If you say: my son wets his bed, but what you don’t say is that you are angry about it, or you are ashamed about it, or you wish he didn’t… then you are making it wrong. The place from which you view it is: it shouldn’t be. There is a right way and a wrong way, and bedwetting is wrong. Especially if the bedwetter is your own son… makes you look bad, makes you look like a bad parent.
All kinds of emotions need to be suppressed while you deal with that thing: my son is wetting his bed. You are hooked by it, you can’t even see your son anything other than a bedwetter… when he does something you like, it’s a bedwetter redeeming himself.
You can’t stand in front of the wet sheets and not flinch. It is not a what is so, it is something that shouldn’t be, something that needs to be fixed.
When I look at the wet sheets, they are just wet sheets. The smell of urine is just the smell of urine. The child being ashamed is just the child being ashamed. I don’t have to fix anything, because there is nothing wrong with wet sheets, the smell of urine, an ashamed child. Life is life, and it always makes sense when you allow it to be that: life the way it is.
I am reading the Harry Bosch novels. Harry Bosch is a homicide detective. He has lots of opportunities to get hooked: death, killing, murder, rape could be wrong, but he doesn’t get hooked, or when he does (a few times he does get hooked, and every time he quits his job), he doesn’t get bitter, he doesn’t become the dog that is wagged by the tail: what is wrong.
He doggedly pursues the crimes, his view unclouded by wrong, should not be, or should be, or right and wrong.
Every person I have ever admired, literary character or actual person, has this ability to unhook themselves from “wrong” and stay independent, stay with the facts and allow them to speak.
I am the same way. I used to be just like everybody else. Reacting emotionally to everything that in my view was wrong. And I was always the knight in shining armor to defend the world from evil. I had low vibration, and I was really really unhappy.
You have a choice… as soon as you can see what you are doing.
When you consistently have a choice, you raise your vibration, tremendously.