An example of how to access your power if your vibration is under 200

simon-bakerI have a favorite actor. Simon Baker, from The Guardian and from The Mentalist.

Before I sat down to write this post, I looked what it is that I like about him. And I found two things about him that make me want to be around him:

  1. He is never in a hurry. He is not tense, he is not forceful, even when his life is threatened. I can feel the automatic muscle tension leave as he quickly returns to coherence, the only state where you can be effective and efficient in your next step, whether it is picking the lock of a handcuff, seeing the invisible to other details, or winning a hand in poker.
  2. He uses context the best way invented context can be used to cause an immediate shift in his attitude.
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Beauty: is it a prop? Why Sophie Loren is perfect…

Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.
Sex appeal is fifty percent what you’ve got and fifty percent what people think you’ve got.
Mistakes are part of the dues one pays for a full life. ~Sophie Loren

I grew up watching movies with Sophia Loren. I saw the beauty and I saw the imperfection. I started to look for it in me, and I found it. But I never thought other people can see it too.

In a way that is lucky: I was left alone to do my own thing, read, write, play music, run and walk in the mountains, swim… alone.

I am an introvert. My inner beauty was my own, I didn’t need others to see it.
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A person can do well without doing good… but where is the spice of life?

slay dragons... it's an adventureBack in 1988 I declared that my life was going to be NOT about my life but about others… And that was the beginning of my REAL life…

This article is bulls eye, both in what it says and when it hit. September is a great month to call the beginning of the rest of your life… In certain cultures it is truly the time of the New Year…

And if this article is any good… and I think it’s fabulous, borrowed with just cosmetic changes from the MondayMorningMemo.com it is the perfect guidance for this month.

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Are you hoping for second chances? Life after death, heaven, reincarnation?

lonelinessDoes one size fit all… What is good for one will be good for you too?

Yesterday a reader asked what is the series I watched all day on my birthday.

The question indicates and unmasks a cultural phenomenon: thinking that what is good for one will be good for you… Nothing is further from the truth, and nothing is as debilitating and enslaving than thinking that.

I saw two movies a few years ago, both have a protagonist who dies but doesn’t know he died.

We see the world through is eyes… When it comes to the idea of life after death, the question is: what does this idea do to you and your life?
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The in-order-to syndrome that wastes your life… Do you have it?

dessertWhy were you happy as a child and what you lost that you could regain?

Children live for the now moment, until they get corrupted by their parents.

They do what they do NOT in order to get something else, not in order to get it over with, to get to the promised land…

Christmas and vegetables are the first means to destroy joy in children.

How many days till Christmas makes the days till Christmas something to get through, so the real thing, Christmas can come along.

And eating your vegetables so you can get to the promised land of dessert… You are doing that to your children… you are doing that to yourself. Other examples: get good grades so you can get into a good school… Study to get good grades… Study so you can dazzle by having the right answers… Recognize yourself?
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The religion you live that keeps you in your mind and dumb

This article is the beginning of an inquiry. An inquiry into how and why humanity evolved backwards. How humanity has lost the capacity and interest in using their brain for constructive thought, reasoning, questioning, inquiry. Continue reading “The religion you live that keeps you in your mind and dumb”

Do beliefs hold you back? Is self-image a belief?

what-others-say won't effect your self-imageLife is a between you and you deal

The only thing that effects your quality of life is your own experience of yourself. Not your opinion of yourself. Instead your EXPERIENCE of yourself. Your actions come from that self-experience, aka self-image.

Others’ reaction to you or your actions merely brings that area into focus… your experience of yourself was already there.

Admonishment and your experience of yourself. Praise and your experience of yourself

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The age of your emotions, the age of your behavior, the age of your attitude

Human-Embryo-DevelopmentWe, humans, go through most of our evolutionary processes in the womb, but even after we are born, unlike animals, we are still in the process of becoming human… some of us will grow as high as human being. Not many.

Most of us get stuck at the attitudes, the behavior, the emotions of a young age, and continue behaving on that level of evolution… not very powerful.

In addition of it being annoying to others, and cause you not to fit in, it is as if you had a huge toolbox in your shed, but would never grow tall enough to open the door to get to the toolbox.

Some of us manage to grow out of the “young” stages, but when there is a trigger, we readily jump back and be the baby again.

Today I had this conversation with two people on two sides of this phenomenon.
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6 Hobbies – Science Says – Will Make You Smarter

I am re-publishing this article from Entrepreneur.com.

Although some of the article is hogwash, these are good hobbies to cultivate to increase your use of your capacities. Just like Mr. Miyagi didn’t go and teach karate through karate, these hobbies train specific muscles, specific abilities that are going to be put to good use in a money earning activity later. You can’t effectively learn them then. It is too late to dig a well when you are thirsty.

We are all born with way more capacities than we can use in a lifetime. What makes them capacities that serve us is using them, cultivating them.

You won’t get more capacities this way, but you’ll get a lot happier and a lot better at living life to its fullest.

At the end of the article, I have added one hobby of my own… if you want to be well, physically and emotionally, I recommend that very much.

Here is a list of six hobbies that make you smarter and why.

Play a musical instrument.

Playing music helps with creativity, analytical skills, language, math, fine motor skills and more. While these are all great advantages, some people argue that playing team sports might do as many things. What playing musical instruments does that other activities don’t is strengthen the corpus callosum that links the hemispheres of the brain by creating new connections.

An improved corpus callosum helps with executive skills, memory, problem solving and overall brain function, regardless of how old you are.

Read anything.

The benefits of reading are the same whether you are enjoying Game of Thrones, Harry Potter or the latest issue of the Wall Street Journal. Reading reduces stress, which makes you feel better about yourself, and increases all three types of intelligence — crystallised, fluid and emotional. That helps with problem solving, putting different pieces of knowledge together to better navigate everyday life, detecting patterns, understanding processes and accurately interpreting and responding to other people’s feelings.

At work, this translates into better understanding how to make things happen and better managerial skills.

Exercise regularly.

Occasional exercise alone doesn’t do the trick. Regular exercise is much more effective than hard work-outs every now and then. When exercising regularly the cells are flooded with BDNF, a protein that helps with memory, learning, focus, concentration and understanding. This is also often referred to as mental acuity. It’s missing for most of you…

Some scientists speculate that sitting down for prolonged periods of time has the opposite affect and actually hinders our brain from working as well as it could.

Learn a new language

Forget solving puzzles to improve your memory and learn a foreign language instead. Research has shown that people who are bilingual are better at solving puzzles than people who speak only one language. Successfully learning new languages enables your brain to better perform any mentally demanding tasks. This includes the typical executive skills such as planning and problem-solving.

Additionally, speaking at least two languages positively affects your skill to monitor your environment and to better direct your attention to processes. Many people are told that because executives speak languages, they should learn Spanish or French if they want to move up the ranks. Based on how the brain reacts to learning languages, it might be the other way around. Learning another language might be the last missing link people need to get their brain ready to take on C-level jobs.

Test your cumulative learning.

Many intelligent students in high school and college “cram” for finals and seem to have mastered the topic the day of the big test. The trouble with that is we tend to forget these things quickly because we are rarely, if ever, required to repeat that knowledge in that same way. One reason studying a new language makes us smarter is because it requires cumulative learning. Because we need them over and over again, the grammar and vocabulary we learn is repeated countless times as we improve our foreign language skills.

Apply the concept of cumulative learning to every day life and your work place by keeping track of noteworthy bits of knowledge you acquire. Go through takeaways from recent books, observations during an important negotiation, or keep a small journal with anything that strikes your attention. Start integrating cumulative learning into your self-improvement program.

Work out your brain.

Sudoku, puzzles, riddles, board games, video games, card games, and similar activities increase neuroplasticity. This encompasses a wide variety of changes in neural pathways and synapses that is basically the ability of the brain to reorganize itself. When nerve cells respond in new ways, that increases neuroplasticity, which allows us more ability to see things from different points-of-view and understand cause and effect of behaviors and emotions. We become aware of new patterns and our cognitive abilities are improved.

Considering that neuroplasticity is involved in impairments such as tinnitus, an increased amount can help prevent certain conditions. For instance, people with high neuroplasticity are less prone to anxiety and depression while learning faster and memorizing more.

Meditate.

Take a basic cooking class.

I find that too many of my students don’t cook. But that means you subsist on salads, and restaurant food. Given that my number one recommendation is to stop eating grains, preferably completely, you will need to be able to cook side dishes to go with your protein… or you’ll continue eating bread, chips, all the things that got you dull, dumb, lazy, hazy, and sick. So, please take on cooking, cooking simple dishes. You don’t need to be a chef… just a simple bachelor-type cook, someone who can sautee, boil, stir-fry… Make sure you start with onions, how to chop, how to fry… and then garlic, and then vegetables. If you do it wrong, you won’t eat it. The purpose is to learn a new skill… meditative too.

Now, get busy. Get smarter, and get better. Put some life into your years.

Updated: Are you at cause or are you at effect?

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Can context be cause?
Note: I wrote this article three years ago, but it is as timely as ever… It moved me then, and it moves me today… Enjoy!

This question doesn’t sound like it could make much sense, does it? But when you find out what it means, you’ll be thrilled to know that it is the panacea, the cure for most of what ails us.

By the way, Nature’s fundamental law is: Like causes cause like effects. If something you consider “cause” doesn’t work reliably, it is not a cause, it’s an effect. Like prayer, like certain remedies, like the “Law” of attraction, like thinking positively, like placebo…

The Second Phase Activators Course just finished on Sunday, and I am working on the next course. Making decisions, creating some new stuff. And a big change: I will not allow everyone to sign up, just because they want to be in it.

There are some current students who, because of their attitude, lag behind. This creates tension in the group: I spend more time trying to unstuck the unwilling or lazy ones than actually teaching stuff. (The main unwilling attitudes ‘it’s good enough for me the way it is,’ ‘why rock the boat,’ or belligerence or even hostility/resistance are the attitudes I have been experiencing and won’t tolerate in my next courses.

These people also don’t have a big enough desire to change or even to experiment, and change and experimenting are mandatory if you want to create a shift in your life to the better.)

I also needed to create changes in MY attitude to be able to believe that I can pick and choose who I want to teach. That is a long shot from where I started: accepting anyone who was willing.
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