I bet the title of previous article, "Are you a taker" got instantly translated in your head to "Are you bad?"
What you don't know is that if you are not allowed to take, you won't be allowed to give... the ultimate stingy... If you are not allowed to live according to your nature, you will do cartwheels to avoid it... even if and even when your nature would take you where you want to go.
There is a major difference between you and your dog. Your dog is happy, and you are not.
What I can write best is the wretchedness of going straight for what you want, and quitting when anyone else benefits... And I can share how this... getting what i need as a side effect, consciously, has been one of the secrets of my inner peace, fulfillment, and happiness.
Some 15 years ago I started studying Kabbalah, an ancient body of thought. The truth value of Kabbalah is about 30%, while most other "ancient" teachings are less than 10% truth value, so if you have a large body of knowledge yourself, have read hundreds or thousands of books, have degrees, etc. You are somewhat safe in studying Kabbalah. Continue reading "Selfish? let’s look at that, shall we?"
Your elbow is close, yet you can't bite it... another Russian proverb...
Your mind says: I am not enough... it has been saying it for a long time... but nothing has changed.
It is Monday Morning and I am already not enough.
I just read the Monday Morning Memo, and it answered my nagging question: why am I not more successful? And answered it in a way that turned me into a heap of meat: I can't do what it tells people to do... put sentences the way he says...
I can't. I'll never amount to much... maybe it's time to pack it in.
I am pondering what he teaches, I am pondering my inability, I am pondering how I can live, have the audacity to live, now that I know.
What would happen if they passed a law that no one can take money until the buyer says he/she has used and is satisfied with their purchase... because the product or program delivered on its promises?
Judging from many testimonials, the majority of buyers leave their testimonial before they test or consume what they paid for. They like the packaging, the color of the stuff... or the accent of the coach... so they are happy. With what? one might ask...
What is the "real" meaning of little hinges swing big doors? And what is the practical benefit of knowing it? And putting it to work in your life.
The difference between the 99% and the 1% is what we are talking about in this article.
You may or may not be able to raise yourself to the level of the 1%, but you'll move from wherever you are to a lot higher in income, life satisfaction, etc. depending on how well you employ this new thing... that at present you probably have never thought of.
Rob Brezsny writes: U2's singer Bono, says that all of us suffer from the sense that something's missing from our lives. We imagine that we lack an essential quality or experience, and its absence makes us feel sad and insufficient. French philosopher Blaise Pascal referred to this emptiness as "a God-shaped hole." Bono adds that "you can never completely fill that hole," but you may find partial fixes through love and sex, creative expression, family, meaningful work, parenting, activism, and spiritual devotion. I bring this to your attention, because I have a strong suspicion that in the coming weeks you will have more power to fill your God-shaped hole than you've had in a long time.
If you look at Bono's take on the human condition, that we are designed to be forever somewhat unfulfilled, to experience a gnawing black hole in our insides, what Bono calls the "god-shaped hole" a 3% truth value statement... then, muscle test says, the truth part is that some things provide temporary relief, reprieve from the feeling of that emptiness, but it is his list that is flawed... not the idea: him including meaningful work, for example, don't belong to the list. Neither does creative expression... the rest: it depends on you. Parenting could fulfill you, but often you don't know what the heck you are doing, so it leaves the hole unfilled.
...for example: fix something that you don't understand what it is, you just KNOW that it's wrong. Put the cart in front of the horse. Never bother to find the cause... the real cause of anything... the laws of nature.
You may be doing all the steps that can produce the results you want, but what happens if and when you are doing them out of order? Or you don't give enough time to each step to perform its magic, out of greed or hunger or impatience?
What can the Nobel Prize winning physicist's story teach you? OR What did Frank Kern learn the hard way?
First, before I get into the story itself, let's ponder the meaning of teaching so we are on the same page, shall we?
As someone who attempts to teach, let me tell you what it's like for me: I find a thousand different ways to say, demonstrate, frame what I want to teach. I invent thousand and one stories, I find books that hint on what I want to teach, I sing it, I make it a comedy, make it a tragedy, I make you read, I make practice activating your eye muscles and the related brain areas...
And if I do it long enough with enough enthusiasm, I may get a few people to learn what I teach... but most of the time it is a real uphill battle.