The bliss of being who you are, the bliss of being your Self

I wrote this article five years ago. But it goes well with my next… so I am republishing it… so they can be read together.

Last night I finished watching the British series, ‘The Paradise’ about the first department store in London.

I learned something I probably would not have been able to learn anywhere else.

The series is mainly about two characters, the owner of the store who created it. He came from nothing, and is a true entrepreneur.

The other character is a small-town girl, who works for him, and discovers herself as an entrepreneur. Discovers is the key word.
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My my… my teacher’s predictions are coming true.

He has warned me, (not personally) that the big four, or however many they are, are eventually going to ban me, google, facebook, banking and email next…

Amazon didn’t ban me, it banned my products.

But recently I was booted off Facebook, and now, every email address that is connected to me and my business is refusing to forward the emails to my desktop… making it very cumbersome to do business.

My teacher and I match 70%. I didn’t say ‘fit’. I said ‘match’ or we are in essence the same or so similar, you can’t tell which one of us is speaking. Not necessarily the content… he would be mortified if what I say came out of HIS mouth… lol… and I would lose all my students and clients if what he says came out of my mouth.

We are similar in our how.

Most people I know are very dissimilar with me. To me? grammar anyone?

Last night I watched a sales presentation with famed guru Mark Joyner . In fact I stayed up past my bedtime. Continue reading “My my… my teacher’s predictions are coming true.”

Changing your emotional state… to emotional intelligence

Causing yourself or another to change their emotional state

I say all emotions are caused by some words, written, spoken, or thought… the little voice…

But changing the words requires a higher level of self awareness, and therefore this article will talk about an easier method, many speakers, course leaders, coaches use in their practices, as a shortcut to changing your emotional state. Continue reading “Changing your emotional state… to emotional intelligence”

What separates humans from other species, yes even the dolphins, is language.

So we have language. Language that hasn’t evolved for, I don’t actually know, but let’s say tens of thousands of years, and yet we know nothing about communicating.

I even see people call The Communication Course, communications course… with plural.

What does that signal to me? That they don’t think that there is such a thing as communication, only instances of it.

You think that talking, telling someone to do something or not do something is communication.

Unfortunately for you, for humanity, all the communications put together don’t add up to Communication… Continue reading “What separates humans from other species, yes even the dolphins, is language.”

The battle to death of the virtues and the vices…

  • aristotele's golden meanI have been reading articles, studies, even books to get more effective at teaching you. Yesterday I learned some new words for my accurate vocabulary:
  • intellectual virtues/intellectual vices
  • character virtues/character vices
  • physical virtues/physical vices

In my field… self-evolution, self-improvement, self-growth, one of the things I am seeing makes my stomach turn: a widespread phenomenon of being a Milque Toast… i.e. squeamish, i.e. looking only at the bright side of things.

If you tell someone a thousands things to be, VIRTUES, and they manage to be that way, you can raise their numbers, consciousness, vibration, etc. maybe 10%. ugh… very ineffective. Continue reading “The battle to death of the virtues and the vices…”

Your IQ, your base nature… and the Playground

smart looking babyYou can have a high IQ, and yet be a slacker in life.

Why? Because IQ is still only a potential of the brain… not independent of what you use or not use, what you expose yourself or not…

I once had an employee who I hired because she was a Mensa Society member. Mensa only accepts people to be members whose IQ tests say they are above 130… I think. But, between you and me, she was a useless employee and I had to let her go.

Since then I don’t trust IQ tests. You can have a high IQ, and yet be an underachiever in life. Continue reading “Your IQ, your base nature… and the Playground”

Sometimes the only way for you to notice what a pr*ck you have been, is to change your ways and look back

invisilble fieldSometimes the only way for you to notice what a prick you have been, is to change your ways and look back.
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As I am on the mend, I now have gone outside to walk a little bit to move the fluids inside, the blood, and the lymphatic system. If there are more… I don’t know about them. 1

So my constitutional is to make the fluids move… I don’t have energy for a lot of walk, about a quarter of a mile is what I CAN walk now… I used to be able to walk for hours.

There is a woman whom I met a number of years ago. She lives about 8 doors downhill from me. I first met her on a September Sunday, she was participating in an Art trail… that happens in Syracuse, where I live, every year about this time of the year. Continue reading “Sometimes the only way for you to notice what a pr*ck you have been, is to change your ways and look back”

Self-awareness: what is it and why is it crucial to have it?

Self-awareness is the rarest of all the human virtues. Why? because it is all inner. . . and unless you have it you won’t even know you have it. And unless you grow it, you can’t change.

This is one of the things I measure in the Starting Point Measurements.

The numbers I get are between 3% and 20%, with 20% is being rare: I only found, so far, one person with that level of awareness.

So what can you notice if and when you are self-aware? Continue reading “Self-awareness: what is it and why is it crucial to have it?”

Generosity, choosing, gratitude MAKE YOU HAPPY

Generosity was one of the distinctions I spent years researching and trying to BE…

It is a tricky way to be, the full meaning of generosity, because almost no one ever is really generous.

We normally equate giving with generosity. Some give stuff, others give praise, some give of themselves.

Most generosity makes the recipient suspicious: what is the ulterior motive? Continue reading “Generosity, choosing, gratitude MAKE YOU HAPPY”

What one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth

Make your plane land where you want it to land… or what one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth

This is probably the most shocking sentence in the whole 67 step program.

I literally don’t know anyone who lives that way.

People try to succeed, try a diet, try this and try that… while their plane crashes in every area.

So what is the difference between who are like that, who are on their way to become that kind of person, and others who never ever land their plane on the landing strip? Continue reading “What one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth”