We all have two selves. One is real, the other is made up.
The bigger the distance between the two, the less authentic, the less happy we are.
When you love yourself: you love your life... said in another way: when the two selves are in harmony, you love your life.
soul's (the real self) job is to cause character, the soul's job is to help you find out who you are. The Self. The person you are...
Many of you have not managed to distinguish a Self from all the ideas of who you should be, who you want to be, who you fancy yourself being... The precious I, the delusional self.
A Self is your "I" that is independent and defensible from other people's opinion, and from even your own opinion of you... when you make mistakes.
I know this is a mouthful, so let me elaborate:
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I just spent almost four whole days and whole nights in bed, in and out of sleep.
It was new to me to think of myself first, and of "duty" second.
But I have learned, the hard way, that if I don't take care of myself, I may be dead sooner than I'd like.
Actually it wasn't hard to stay in bed. This was for me like a vacation... I vacated my mind... Trial death... Nice.
Until last night... that is... when my mind kicked in and instead of letting me sleep, I was writing articles in my head.
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In this article I'll teach you something that has the potential to turn you into a happy, joyful person. No kidding.
Also, it can serve as the bridge between human and human being...
From that you can guess: the distinctions in this article are advanced.
At present, if you are a "normal" human, you are judging yourself and others. You are miserable, wretched, prone to get happy, get sad, get depressed at the drop of a hat.
I assert that you are judgmental, because distinctions are missing, and there is nothing wrong with you. Or them...
You are judgmental. You can't help it. You may try to control yourself, suppress it, but it isn't going anywhere. It is there. It's vicious. You judge yourself as much as you judge others. This is how you learned to be by modeling your parents, your teachers, your bosses, your church, your politicians.
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It's New Year's day. Billions of people give and get strokes... happy new year! Thank you, happy new year to you!
You have to answer, reciprocate, or you create a negative balance with the people you didn't answer to... Weird but is so. Violate this at your own demise...
Humans need "strokes", an acknowledgment (validation?) of their existence, to stay alive. The expression Eric Berne uses is, that their spine doesn't shrivel up.
Any strokes will do...
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The second part of the title, "except that not always" is doesn't apply for at least 10% of you: you won't even see the difference when I point it out.
The most frustrating thing is, that you are sure you are saying or understanding the right words... but you don't. And you blame it on the speaker saying that what they said doesn't work.
How do I know?
For most people, who become a student in my programs, this is the first hurdle to pass.
You come into my program with a 300 accurate vocabulary, and you only hear the words you think you know what they mean, but that is not what I said.
I only find out what you heard when you tell me my words back to me... wrong. inaccurate. different words. Different meaning. Or Tai's words, if you are in the 67 steps coaching...
Continue reading "For you everything is the same as everything else, except that not always…"
For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.
I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.
I had no idea how I "accomplished" that... in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.
What wasn't clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my
attitude effected the service provider. My "To what degree you think of yourself:" starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.
Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt...
What I didn't know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.
A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.
I was that kind of customer...
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I am starting to get hate mail.
I am happy about it.
They say the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.
So when you teach something, no echo is the worst thing that can happen to you. Being called names, cursed out: that is wonderful. You got noticed.
It means: you are being heard. It means you are making waves. It means you are upsetting the apple cart. Poking holes into long held truths... and ultimately that is the job of a teacher.
The order of things is what is accepted as truth.
For the most part, the order of things contain "truths" memes, that are not true...
The current order of things has a total
truth value of 4%... which means 96% of what we believe is not true. Continue reading "Updated: Is muscletesting a good truth method for picking a diet? Prepare to be surprised"
I am a lot like a pitbull... I latch onto something and won't let go until I pull it all the way out of the invisible, until all of it shows.
I just pushed the button "publish" on my article asking if you are teachable.
I had left two questions unanswered in that article: one about me learning how to connect by muting a video... and the other one: my ex student learning to connect, from me... but nothing else.
I am an
empath. Nothing new in that. The ex student is also an empath. Not a
TRUE empath, like me. TRUE empaths, I think, are born. But empathy can be opened up: it is a spiritual capacity. And intangible capacity. NOT superhuman.
Continue reading "Can you become an empath? And why would it be good?"
It's Sunday. I hung up my Sunday Rants call 90 minutes ago. I spent these 90 minutes watching marketing sales videos... as I would like to get better at marketing.
And it suddenly hit me... It hit me why no course, no program, no video course, audio course or group coaching can get much result, my program or others'.
I remember a few years ago when famed marketers, like Frank Kern, approached Tony Robbins to get some coaching on how to make people actually achieve the results they promised them in their sales letters. The meager results were bothering them. No matter how good, how detailed the course was, how much handholding they gave, only a fragment of the participants produced results.
Continue reading "Why only 1~2% of participants produce results in a course? Any course… And why you are not among them?"
It is starting to dawn on me that the intellectual action of seeing the forest, in spite of the individual trees is not something everyone has been able to do.
Some people, when they are asked to say what is the forest, in our conversations: what is the principle, what is the
context, they use jargon... like integrity, or responsibility, the word.
They remember it.
But remembering hearing it doesn't mean that they actually saw it.
Seeing the forest for the trees is 90% from the
DNA capacity: Seeing the big picture, and 10% habit. After courage, it is the second most missing capacity in humanity.
When activated, it adds 20 points to your IQ.
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