We are judged all the time. Justly, unjustly, the feeling of being judged is familiar to all of us... and some of us is bothered and paralyzed by it more than others.
What's painful in being judged is that the judgment contains a kernel of truth (or more) and the other part is the judging themselves: in judging they place themselves above us... simply unbearable to the sensitive Precious "I".
This story is about my very recent "bout" with being judged... and shows what is on the other side of judgment... how to free yourself from it so it doesn't sting quite that much... maybe not even at all.
...in fact, without that secret switch you can't really get to 200 vibration, and if by accident (siphoning someone else's energy) you got there... you'll lose it... because to get to 200 and stay there... you need this capacity...
Everyone has a good firm suggestion what is the most important spiritual capacity of a person who'll go far... very far, or at least as far as experiencing the good life goes...
Because the good life is not very far... no matter what anyone says.
As I have written before, the book I am reading now is the Metaskills.
The author is a designer, and looks at life through a designer's glasses.
The article "You live in a world of your own design" is one of the favorite articles on my site. People want to design their lives.
The popularity of the program, Mind Movies builds on that desire to design... but the requirements for design are not there, not there for 99.99% of humanity... What is there is something else, something that doesn't allow for design.
Did you get stuck, ontologically, at a 3-year old's level, and you are still behaving like a 3-year old child
Ontology is being science.
It looks at the grounds of your being. Here are a few examples: "I am an object in the world of objects." "I am not free to be myself!" "There is something wrong and it needs to be fixed!" "Don't tell me what to do!" "I already know!" "It's mine!" "I am a girl" "I am not loved" "Life is dangerous" "I can't count on anyone" "I am worthless"
There are many ways to deal with the Universe, with reality, and most of them are ineffective.
The more effectively you "deal" with reality, the more you get out of your life.
Billionaires Warren Buffet and Charlie Munger, Bill Gates, read books on physics, the ice ages, and the shorelines of our planet... and I see how it helps them in dealing with reality. this is what this article is about.
A principle is a pattern. Big pattern, small pattern, it IS a pattern.
"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." By that, Tolstoy meant that for a marriage to be happy, it had to succeed in several key aspects. Failure on even one of these aspects, and the marriage is doomed . . . the Anna Karenina principle also applies to ecological risk assessments involving multiple stressors.
One of my students suggested that the linchpin capacity that humanity isn't exercising is allowing. The 12-step programs say: Let go - Let god...
I have been pondering this ever since I got the email with the suggestion. At first I didn't see the beauty of it, but it is growing on me.
A lot of why's are answered here... why you can't get well, why you are not happy, etc.
People are the highest value in the universe. Why? Because they are able to be all levels of values, the thinking mind (systemic), the extrinsic (create tools, cook food, provide pleasure), and the intrinsic.
You live, predominantly on one level, and value what is on that level most.
In this article I'll teach you something that has the potential to turn you into a happy, joyful person. No kidding.
Also, it can serve as the bridge between human and human being...
From that you can guess: the distinctions in this article are advanced.
At present, if you are a "normal" human, you are judging yourself and others. You are miserable, wretched, prone to get happy, get sad, get depressed at the drop of a hat.
I assert that you are judgmental, because distinctions are missing, and there is nothing wrong with you. Or them...
You are judgmental. You can't help it. You may try to control yourself, suppress it, but it isn't going anywhere. It is there. It's vicious. You judge yourself as much as you judge others. This is how you learned to be by modeling your parents, your teachers, your bosses, your church, your politicians.