I love the analogy of the winding mountain pass where an unsuspecting motorist happens on a car wreck in the middle of the two-lane road.
His options are to drive into the solid rock on the left, into the abyss on the right, into the wreck in the middle... or to slow down and drive around the wreck. Slowly.
My numbers show that 99.5% of them will not even consider slowing down and driving around the wreck. It doesn't even occur to them as a possibility.
Because, obviously, testing people on winding mountain roads is not in my budget, I do the next best thing. People's response to bad news.
This article is about the two main ways we deal with life. Where we put our efforts, where we put our attention... they both express our attitude quite precisely... and how can brain plasticity rescue you... from yourself.
Imagining, the desire trap is an Epicurean way of living. You imagine what you want, enjoy the pleasures from it, and never invest in a future where you could actually have, in reality, what you wanted.
I just finished Step 10 of the 67 steps... this is my tenth, maybe eleventh round through the 67 audios. It's given me, so far 26 months of being light on my feet... instead of flat footed.
...Whether for myself, or for a client, whether in health, wealth, relationships, or spirituality...
The method has been asking a different question.
A different question unstucks your fixed view of the world, the fixed view that gives you what you are struggling with.
If you consider that everything you have now, is the result of what you know/what you see, then if you want to make any change, big or small, you have to turn your eyes away from what you know, and look around.
Most people, to one degree or another, are ruled by fear. Most of that fear is fear of nothing-in-particular, just fear. And some of that fear is being afraid of getting hurt, of being laughed at, of looking foolish, of making a mistake, of losing face.
But fear is fear, and on the horizontal plane, for the horizontal self, there is nothing more important than to listen to the fear and avoid doing anything that awakens fear.
Result: your life is stagnant, your self-respect is disappearing, and you shrink, and shrink. It doesn't feel good.
Fear is getting stronger, and you are getting weaker.
The view is different from the foot of the mountain than from the top
One of the weird thing about humans that they are stuck in their limited view of reality.
They don't even suspect that there is a different view from different points.
This is why almost every otherwise worthless therapist or coach can cause temporary results... because all they need to learn is to ask you to look a different way, through a different perspective, and voilà... magic happens.
The problem is that when you are left to your own devices, you rarely if ever think to activate the magic. The magic that is magical, but isn't magic.
Things look different from different perspectives, because that is what perspective means. Duh.
And because your life is given by what you see, if you are stuck, which seems to me is always, all you need to do is change the perspective.
This is a great question, if you have curiosity the capacity turned on. This is an even greater question for you if you have been trying to learn, by signing up to my programs, or buying a capacity from me, and you are failing.
Here is the statement I paid more than 20 thousand dollars for, taken an airplane some 20 times, slept in a hotel 20 times, and got nothing else from the courses and programs I paid for...
But this sentence is worth the 20 grands it cost me to get it.
Here is the magic sentence: "When something isn't working... there is something you don't know."