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Should you struggle or should you live?

I had an insight last night when I checked my tongue in the mirror.

The insight wasn't about my tongue. It wasn't even about my health. It was about how in spite of all I can laugh, and crack up, and be a total disruption to ... something.

The insight was, that I was always that way. I never realized.

Every time I was the ham, or I was the jokester, or I was the disruption, I looked at it as if I saw it for the first time.

And last night, suddenly I saw a life that was full of clowning, and joking, and back-talking, and just plain being raucous.

Wow, talk about a surprise. Because if this is true, and because this is my nature, and because it is fun... maybe I could commit to it...

OK... the rest of the article may seem discontinuous, but it isn't... trust me.

OK, here we go:
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What you see… is it reality?

The view is different from the foot of the mountain than from the top

One of the weird thing about humans that they are stuck in their limited view of reality.

They don't even suspect that there is a different view from different points.

This is why almost every otherwise worthless therapist or coach can cause temporary results... because all they need to learn is to ask you to look a different way, through a different perspective, and voilà... magic happens.

The problem is that when you are left to your own devices, you rarely if ever think to activate the magic. The magic that is magical, but isn't magic.

Things look different from different perspectives, because that is what perspective means. Duh.

And because your life is given by what you see, if you are stuck, which seems to me is always, all you need to do is change the perspective.

I hardly know anyone who volunteers to do that. Continue reading "What you see… is it reality?"

You are not learning. What does the culture teach you, tell you, so that you end up not learning?

iceberg of your identity: the hidden dimensions

This is a great question, if you have curiosity the capacity turned on. This is an even greater question for you if you have been trying to learn, by signing up to my programs, or buying a capacity from me, and you are failing.

Here is the statement I paid more than 20 thousand dollars for, taken an airplane some 20 times, slept in a hotel 20 times, and got nothing else from the courses and programs I paid for...

But this sentence is worth the 20 grands it cost me to get it.

Here is the magic sentence: "When something isn't working... there is something you don't know."

The sentence is brilliant... and yet it won't work for 99% of the people...
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What is a seeming? And why is it helpful to know?

One type of memes that you honor as the truth are called a seemings. It is that way... but if you can change the saying: "It seems to me that..." then it becomes a seeming.

Why turn something into a seeming?

Saying "It seems to me" starts turning on the capacity of responsibility.

Responsibility, the way the capacity sees it, is a privilege. It is a way to look at the world where your power is intact, and you have access to it. Access means: you can feel it, you can use it. Power for what? Power to be well, power to change something, move something, create something. Continue reading "What is a seeming? And why is it helpful to know?"

What is the right attitude when being coached or being taught by a teacher?

... and by "right" attitude I mean the attitude that gets you what you wanted from life... 1

A assume that we are all afraid of being mislead, misguided, lied to. The fear is well-founded: most people don't know what they are talking about, most people are wrong, and some even lie so they can make money off you.

So what? I say... OK, don't run just yet. Continue reading "What is the right attitude when being coached or being taught by a teacher?"

Why You Keep Signing Your Future Self Up for Stuff You Don’t Actually Want to Do

Part One: Knowing yourself is key to being able to change

We all think that we know ourselves... and then when it turns out to be wrong, we are surprised, but unphased in our certainty that we know ourselves.

Why is it nearly impossible to you to know yourself?

Because self-reflection is an intangible, spiritual capacity that can only open up if and when you look at your effect, your reflection, your feedback from the world around you. Continue reading "Why You Keep Signing Your Future Self Up for Stuff You Don’t Actually Want to Do"

The mind is an answer finding, meaning making machine

real eyes see real liesSo I am sitting here... and this wave of hopelessness washes over me. I observe my mind that goes and tries on different memes to make sense of the feeling.

  • "No matter what I do...." the whining voice says.
  • "It's hopeless... give it up!" says the authoritative voice.
  • "You are worthless... who do you think you are to think that you are any better?"

None of these are mine. The feeling comes from my next door neighbor who became a "Christian" to feel better, but it's not working for her.

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Cannot get from A to B? It’s not your fault! It’s the memes

Minerva and chocolate cake proofWhen people speak about beliefs that they want to get rid of, let's say, belief about money, abundance, they always think that there are some personal beliefs there, that they are discreet, and that they can get rid of them.

Back in my times when I was doing Fourth Plane energies, "designer energies", one of the moves I had is to make my hand sticky, and pull beliefs, also called thought forms, from myself and from clients.

It was a long process. Hard on the muscles... Continue reading "Cannot get from A to B? It’s not your fault! It’s the memes"

How do you think of yourself less? What does that mean? Thinking of others? Becoming a do-gooder?

OK, I am going to clarify something that myself don't quite know how it works, and why it works that way.

So it may come out incomprehensible, botched up, and useless. But, in my view, it is worth to try...

Note: if you only read one example, make it #5!

OK, the issue: one of the measurements is to what degree your life is about you and your life... the words I use I borrowed from someone else... 2 and the words are "to what degree you think of yourself"... as a measure of humility i.e. how much room you have to learn and grow, how much room you have for the world, for work, for life... for others. Continue reading "How do you think of yourself less? What does that mean? Thinking of others? Becoming a do-gooder?"

Discover what is special about you, what makes you you?

In the exercise, "what do you want to be acknowledged for?" you have a chance to discover what is special about you.

To be able to love life, to do fulfilling work, you need to know and organize your life around what is special about you.

I just acknowledged a woman for what she wanted to be acknowledged for.

I have known her for some time, but it turns out: I didn't know her at all. The organizing principle was missing, so I added my opinion to organize her around in my mind: scared.

But it turns out that she moved from one country to another to start a new life, away from a husband she no longer wanted. Start a new life without a support network, from scratch. Continue reading "Discover what is special about you, what makes you you?"