I am a watcher. I watch people... I keep a tab on them. I am like a watchdog.
I watch about 30 people. Why? I keep my finger on the pulse of the world this way.
One of these people has been my hero for about a decade. I won't say his name.
Recently he got married. His vibration promptly dropped 120 points. His reality is now shaped by the new wife and her speaking.
Interestingly while they just lived together, she held her tongue. But once there was a ring on her finger, she started to talk.
What alerted me is the sharp change in his business behavior, in the new way he runs his business. He has gone from hard working, high vibration, high dynamic behavior to someone playing with his kaka. Playing small. Not inspiring to me. If he continues this way, he will have no business.
In this article I will look at this phenomenon... It is not rare, in fact every time someone forms a new alliance, they change... and so far they mostly change to less. I'll help you look at the principle.
I am reading many books, many articles. They all say that my life could be better, would be better if I just looked at the bright side of things. But that... looking at only the bright side of things, actually leads to a boring, inauthentic life. What makes good good is the contrast... No bad? Not looking at it? there suddenly isn't good either... only boring, dull, dead. And you can't sleep...
Moreover, if the purpose of life is to become all you can be, to see all you can see, then what helps you most is seeing what is not so great about you.
My base nature is to see what is off. In anything, anywhere.
It is not pessimism, because I don't think it is something bad. It is what is off. It is not negativity, because I don't limit my looking and I don't limit my seeing to only what doesn't work: I also see what works.
Life is dull when you see only one side of things...
The dullest people are the ones with the rose colored glasses... And inside, they are also conflicted, struggle with guilt, self-blame, and misery.