Desire kills ambition. Desire kills accomplishment.


What prevents you from growing, what prevents you from becoming all you can become?

Ambition is what makes people grow, ambition is what makes people accomplish things that are not easy.

But ambition is kept in check... as I said above, by desire that everybody says is good for you... Bah humbug.

Let's see what the words actually mean before we continue.

Ambition is directing your motive power, your inner motive power towards the accomplishment of something: learning, building, mastering. In my view, the beingness view: ambition is the willingness to go/do for what you want.

Compare it with motivation, which is mostly outward directed: the carrot and the stick is ways to motivate the unmotivated. In motivation the motivator uses desire to to the trick and not the inner motive power, the power of the spirit within.

Motivation is for having... the carrot, the feeling, the security, the reward, the result. The stuff that is actually wholly out of your control... so motivation makes you a perpetual carrot chasing person.

Motivation whips the desire into a feverish pitch... it keeps you tense, keeps you needy, keeps you wretched.

Ambition, on the other hand is motivated by beingness given that it comes from the spirit within. It doesn't concern itself with what it can't control: it concerns itself with what you can control fully: your behavior, and on higher vibrational levels: your beingness.

One could say that Ambition is process oriented, while motivation is result oriented.

Desire is always from need, and desire to receive for the self alone.

People with a high desire number are motivated to get the result they crave at the expense of another: the other has to pay the price.

Behind or underneath that desire is the unresolved, unmanaged ITCH.

The person with high desire wants to scratch that itch by getting something whatever it takes. But the ITCH cannot be scratched by anything outside of you... no matter how much you try it, how hopeful it looks.

  • You got married to scratch that ITCH?
  • You got thin to scratch that ITHC?
  • You got fat to scratch that ITCH?
  • You became top of the class to scratch that ITCH?
  • You got wealthy to scratch that ITCH?
  • You became a criminal to scratch that ITCH?

It is hard to turn your life around, and become a person who grows while you have the ITCH running your life. There is a conflict between the devil you know, and the devil you don't.

But I have a surprise for you: EVERYTHING can be resolved in COMMUNICATION.

Communication, you ask? Who am I going to talk to?

First off: talking isn't communication.

And because your issue is an inner conflict, not with another person, the issue needs to be resolved with yourself... in communication.

How do you do that? What do you say?

To my chagrin, communication, the ability to communicate to make things happen is even more missing in our culture than courage.

Communication is the ability to make things happen, over there... outside of the communicator. It is a potent, reliable, count-on-able system to accomplish what you intend, without cajoling, forcing, tricking another.

Do I teach a communication course? No.

I teach that inner self-to-Self communication that you need to have to resolve the ambition-motivation issue, the ITCH. I teach it in the advanced ITCH workshop.

To find out, to identify, to map out your ITCH, you, at the minimum, need to do the ITCH workshop, which is a recorded course, and the Playground, which is a live  12-month minimum program.

To start the steps towards being able to grow, being able to be ambitious instead of trying to scratch your ITCH, here is a little push: if you buy the course before Friday, January 24 midnight EST, you can use this coupon code 20-OFF to buy the program.

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The story behind the story


The story behind the story, behind the story, behind the story...

The invisible parts of the story is also a story.

A story can be just the telling of what happened and all the thoughts, emotions, interpretions the teller of the story added.

The tricky thing is to see all the stories... and then see what actually happened in reality separate from what you made up about it.

In digging for the itch, the need that wasn't provided in an incident, that was deliberately taken away, and now running our lives, we experienced this layeredness of the story...

Everybody's, including my own. Continue reading "The story behind the story"

Why it is normal to be miserable: the itch you are trying to scratch


The consolation prize you get, instead of a rich and fulfilling life

We all have it... unnoticed, unidentified, undistinguished, sneaking past your conscious awareness, the strings that make you a puppet on a string, robbing you of your life, using it for its own purposes... laughing at you. I can hear the laugh.

The racket. The insidious, ubiquitous racket.

It is a machine... and it is powered by an unfulfilled and unfillable desire, I call The Itch... the itch that cannot be scratched.

The desire for attention, for significance, for winning every transaction, for love, for filling your gaping hole inside. Continue reading "Why it is normal to be miserable: the itch you are trying to scratch"

Unless you define what is success for you, you can’t become successful


I sleep poorly the night before every Playground session. It takes me hours to fall asleep, and I have trouble filled dreams.

So when I got up this past Saturday, it was freezing cold, in the single digits outside... single digits in Fahrenheit is very cold... double digits in the minus in Celsius.

So I pondered what I had to look forward that day.

For a long time, for years, when I looked, when I asked that question, I only saw one thing to look forward to: my morning tea. Rich British Blend Tetley with full fat milk... Continue reading "Unless you define what is success for you, you can’t become successful"

People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care


...poet and filmmaker Jean Cocteau said.

  • 1. There are truths that you can only say after having won the right to say them.
  • 2. True realism consists in revealing the surprising things that habit keeps covered and prevents us from seeing.
  • 3. What the public criticizes in you, cultivate. It is you.
  • 4. You should always talk well about yourself! The word spreads around, and in the end, no one remembers where it started.
  • 5. We shelter an angel within us. We must be the guardians of that angel.


'If the Angel decides to come it will be because you have convinced her, not by tears, but by your humble resolve to be always beginning; to be a beginner.' ~ Rainer Maria Rilke Continue reading "People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care"

Why is it that you look at a successful person and even if you copy all their actions, even if you copy their attitude the way they tell you, you won’t be able to duplicate their success?


This is an article I wrote almost 8 years ago...

Why is it that you look at a successful person and even if you copy all their actions, even if you copy their attitude the way they tell you, you won't be able to duplicate their success?

I have been slacking off growing, i.e. didn't do much to grow, and I noticed. Not for a long time, maybe a week or two, but I have started to notice. Just like athletes notice the imperceptible signs of muscle atrophy and weakening when they are on vacation.

It is very easy to go to this mode... easier than to go back to growth mode.

It's easy, because 99% of the population is there, at any one time. Most people over 18, as a matter of fact, and most people under 18... lol, not funny.
Continue reading "Why is it that you look at a successful person and even if you copy all their actions, even if you copy their attitude the way they tell you, you won’t be able to duplicate their success?"

Kabbalists say: the bible is code. They, of course, mean: the Old Testament, the 5 books of Moses


Kabbalists say: the bible is code. They, of course, mean: the Old Testament, the 5 books of Moses.

If the Bible is code, then it is not a story... or if there is a story there, it is itself code: meaning an illustration of a principle.

Egypt stands for slavery. Slavery to whatever people are a slave to: riches, significance, sex, entertainment, desire to receive for the self alone, their racket, the racket with which they extort goodies from others, justify their nastiness, their domination, their haplessness.

Extorting sympathy, or whatever they extort.

So what did Moses do with this bunch of slaves? Continue reading "Kabbalists say: the bible is code. They, of course, mean: the Old Testament, the 5 books of Moses"

Removing Barriers to you being all-you-can-be


I just read an excerpt of Mark Manson's (vibration: 260) book, about the path to growing... The art of not giving a f*ck

Even the brief is worth reading...

Some people write better than me. Some people find solutions faster than me. Some people can teach ME things... Baah, right?

What Manson says is the essence of the Michelangelo Method of growing.

You remove everything that doesn't work, everything that is not you, everything that doesn't support you in living life you love and living it powerfully.

But the sticky part of this process is telling the truth about having been wrong. Continue reading "Removing Barriers to you being all-you-can-be"

So you want to be important… liked… relevant… belonging.


So you want to be important... liked... relevant... belonging.

This issue is coming to the forefront... This expectation of be made important, liked, relevant, belonging by other people, or by some job, of by association, or by some success.

Or to be liked by behaving in a certain way, be liked by other people because of something you do or don't do.

It is an aspect of being an effect... not a cause. Little explored by anyone.

You are either in the world of because or you are cause... BE cause

Continue reading "So you want to be important… liked… relevant… belonging."

Self awareness is not enough. Understanding is not enough.


If you want to become more, grow, evolve, self awareness is important but it is not enough. Meditation is not enough. Having a person to model yourself after is not enough. Reading is not enough. Understanding is not enough either.

Something is missing, the presence of which would make the most difference, and could take you through the barrier to full knowledge of your machine.

What machine, you ask?

This is the same as when you mention to someone that their little voice is always talking... What little voice they ask?

90% of what matters about a human, about you, is in the invisible, the vague, the hidden. Even others can only see the peak of the iceberg, not the whole... not the part that is immersed, not the part that we call "the machine". Continue reading "Self awareness is not enough. Understanding is not enough."