This is a severely truncated article from "Vox"... I am only interested in giving you Bayes' Method, that will help you go to reality with more certainty than you have now, and spend less time, a whole lot less wondering about your feelings... Whatever they may be.
To my dismay, this is what you have been doing, emoting. You make your decisions based on emotions... Life spent in utter uselessness.
Homo Sapiens, as a species, is pretty messed up. Everything sets its emotions off, and the specimen gets all emotional, angry, afraid, violent, or sad and depressed.
This emotional reactivity makes getting things done near impossible, learning, or having people together pretty hopeless.
Almost all diseases are a consequence of this phenomenon... people eat to soothe themselves. People eat to eat another out of their fortune. People eat to feel superior. People eat to get some enjoyment out of life.
If you have lived a lifestyle that left you with no foundation for self-growth is answering the question... what comes first: the chicken or the egg.
You, people in this predicament have one characteristic in common: you don't want to do anything that you cannot see the immediate usefulness of it.
Usefulness can also be enjoyment... enjoyment is useful.
This common characteristic has rendered you to either rely on your quick intelligence in school, and you had reasonable to good grades, or you had bad grades... the result in common: no knowledge of the world, no foundation for self-growth, because no real learning took place.
The percentage of humanity that would like to grow, but has nothing going for them, other than that vague desire, is a staggering 70%. 70%!
You have to have vision... you read it in memes, in articles, but you don't know what vision is, so how can you have it, right?
I have students, friends, who think they have vision for themselves, but what they have is the desire trap syndrome: they see pieces of the future that they want. They can walk around in it, enjoy it, embellish it, feel it, dream about it. Fly the private jet to have breakfast in Bombay, or drink margaritas on the pristine white sands of some private island. Continue reading "“You have to have vision”… what does it even mean?!"
Frustration has two causes: 1. wanting 2. expecting. Unfulfilled desires, unfulfilled expectations. Horrid.
You want more, better, different... Or you expect more better or different.
Either way, you are acting consistent with what society, what civilization wants you to be... not with Life.
More, more, more is the battle cry of consumerism. Industry, business wants to make more and sell more. So YOU cry for more, because you are told the secret to happiness is more. More this and more that.
You find out you are copper deficient (isn't everybody, by the way?) and you ask: what has copper. Let me ADD some of that to my food... your food that already keeps you 20-30-40 pounds overweight.
That's me on the picture, 19 years ago... Waiting to get wet on the USA side of Niagara Falls... A perfect example of becoming...
We, humans, negotiate our way in life... with circumstances, schedules, things, and other people. From cradle to grave... we could say, that is life... negotiating every step, winning some and losing some.
But here is the thing: the rules are not clear, not clean, and not overt.
You cannot be sure what constitutes winning, and what constitutes losing a step... in fact, most steps: you have no idea.
Whoever thought that the well-meaning positive thinking will become a prison and a sentence to a 'no joy life' for most who become a "practitioner" of it, about 80% of humanity at this time.
Whether you know it or not, your powers of comprehension depend on your powers of distinguishing.
In the old est training, the trainers came to the room on the first day blasting: "for you Everything is the same as everything else ... except not always" and they were as accurate as accurate they would be today: you can't tell your ass from your elbow.
This is true for everybody, including yours truly... the difference is only in degrees. No one is exempt from it.
The capacity to see differences clearly is called astuteness. The capacity to tell apart similar things, to name them and claim them.