What are guiding feelings vs. emotions? Are you guided to look away? Run?

I would never have thought of asking this question prior to reading Margoczi’s books, Feelings and Words a few years ago.

The truth value of those books is about 40%… more for reasons of omission than for reasons of false teaching.

I have learned in Landmark Education that regret, remorse, resentment, the “infamous” three R’s are useless, and harmful.

I dare to differ.

  • They may be useless if you are unwilling to take responsibility for what they are signaling.
  • They may be useless or harmful if you make them your mood for life… pretending that you are a victim… you were never a victim, although you may have had abuse, misuse, or failures in your life.

What makes you a victim (also called an effect) is the unwillingness to take responsibility for what belongs to you… Continue reading “What are guiding feelings vs. emotions? Are you guided to look away? Run?”

The Carrot and Stick Method, or what’s between you and doing what you need to do, want to do, dream of doing?

New research seems to indicate that brain chemicals may control behavior and for people to learn and adapt in the world, both punishment and reward may be necessary.This is an article from 2013… as valid as it was then…

The signup to the Carrot and Stick webinars has started. This has prompted me to write this article.

Most of us, thinking that we are machines that can be operated by anyone, think that just by finding the switch, we’ll be able to do the things we haven’t been able to do, haven’t been willing to do, haven’t been liking to do.
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Am I weak? Are you weak? What is the inside stick? How do you activate it?

Motivation… it is either a stick or a carrot…

And it is either an inside job, or an outside job.

I am more motivated, more nudged on to do a move, to do something, to make a change in behavior by the stick than by the carrot… the inside stick

Most carrots promise you some goodies… goodies you don’t already have, or more of what you already have. But human preference is not in that direction. No matter how trapped you are in desire, wanting, being induced to doing anything for what you want is really rare, unless it is for instant gratification. 1

The stick promises to take something away. Life, goodies, love, self-love, comforting lies about yourself. And that is the main motivation to take action for people. The threat, the “promise” of loss. Continue reading “Am I weak? Are you weak? What is the inside stick? How do you activate it?”

What is Freedom? What is Liberty? What is the difference?

Freedom versus Liberty, thrivers, survivors, or fallen by the wayside

When I ask people what they want, many say they want freedom. When we poke into it: they want a sense of freedom, but think the way to get to freedom is through liberty… Let me explain.

Just like with all words we use, here is huge confusion, a collapse of two distinctions: freedom and liberty. They are not connected. They don’t even overlap!
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There is a difference between something being wrong, or you not liking it…

Intelligence is being able to tell that difference. It begins there.

If you can’t tell the difference, then you will make the same collapsing move everywhere, and you are the person about whom the saying goes: for you everything is the same as everything else… except that not always. Not a compliment. 1

No distinction? No intelligence.

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If you have a problem keeping your word… Part 2

todo-list-3I am finding out that you’ve been thinking in terms of todo lists to get things done.

I find todo lists daunting.

The biggest problem with todo lists is that they kill the spirit in things.

The second biggest problem with todo lists is that they mix big things, and small things.

What takes you someplace worth going to are two kinds of things Continue reading “If you have a problem keeping your word… Part 2”

If you have a problem keeping your word… That may be your first step

If you have a problem keeping your word… Noticing and handling that may be your first step towards growth and becoming a person…

Keeping your word, especially the word that you gave to yourself is a big issue… This article is digging deep for the causes and the solutions.

Keeping your word has two elements: the word you give… and the behavior that follows.

The self-consciousness I talk about this other article makes you make promises that are not possible for you to keep. Either the promise is too vague, or you have no business to promise what you are promising. Continue reading “If you have a problem keeping your word… That may be your first step”

Shall I create a communication course for you?

If we consider communication a result producing activity, which it is, then we need to look at communication as we look at anything where we measure productivity: producing a result with some degree of reliability.

  • Just like in productivity, your results depend, largely, on your attitude. Your attitude towards the task, and your attitude towards yourself.
  • Just like in productivity, the order in which you do the tasks influences your results, and therefore your productivity. What you do first and what you do second…
  • Just like in productivity, something is considered more important than something else… and you’ll either honor that or not… and your results will show that, or the lack of that honor.
  • Just like in productivity, your skill level, your ability to see the big picture, your ability to use carrot and stick effectively, you’ll have compliance or non-compliance… you’ll communicate or you won’t…
  • As in productivity, some strategies, some approaches, some skills cause more productivity… same in communication.
  • The 80/20 rule applies to communication as well as it applies to productivity: most of what we say is part of the unproductive 80%, and often prevent us from saying the 20%, that has, at least a chance to produce the results…
  • And when we evaluate our performance, more often than not, in my experience, what we blame is not the 20% missing, but the present and ineffective 80%.

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The fourth quadrant: power… added to beauty, truth, and goodness. Is that yours?

Touched, moved, and inspired… Let’s look at inspired… 1

What is inspired? I am sure that as many people I’d ask as many responses I would get, so let’s get on the same page about it, OK? And here is another word: divine… we’ll call divine anything that is from the invisible domain of reality… nothing to do with some god, or angels, or other 4th plan human mind products.

First the verb: inspire: 1 : to move or guide by divine influence. 2 : to move (someone) to act, create, or feel emotions : arouse.

Then the adverb: inspired: outstanding or brilliant in a way or to a degree suggestive of divine inspiration

And the noun: inspiration: a divine influence or action on a person believed to qualify him or her to receive and communicate sacred revelation

What is in common is the divine influence… being guided… being moved or animated by divine influence. Continue reading “The fourth quadrant: power… added to beauty, truth, and goodness. Is that yours?”

What can you learn from the cult classic, The Mind Parasites by Colin Wilson?

Can you learn how to have peace of mind, productive, and maybe even happy from Colin Wilson and from the book The Mind Parasites?

Colin Wilson died a few years ago. He left a legacy of of many many books, some of them I have read. His vibration was 200, and yet the book can leave you a lot more empowered than Colin Wilson ever was…

This article is about that… how to be empowered by that book, the idea that there are parasites, mind parasites that have their own agenda in your brain. Continue reading “What can you learn from the cult classic, The Mind Parasites by Colin Wilson?”