Is the Ego a friend or a foe? Let’s look!

Can the much maligned ego be the answer to your prayers? Praying to get unstuck?

Ego is a strong driving force… if it is encouraged to be so.

It is also a strong anchoring force. Continue reading “Is the Ego a friend or a foe? Let’s look!”

Feel your way out of the Matrix, out of the limbo

When I say ‘feeling’, I often include the other perception organs…

The most obviously not ‘mind’ feeling is the physical sensation of pressure, heat, blockage, itches, tickles, nausea, headaches, pain, burning sensation, orgasm, warmth, butterflies in your stomach. When I say ‘feeling’, I don’t mean emotion, even though emotions have feeling-components. For example all 48 Bach Feelings feel in a certain way in a certain part of the body.

But what I mean: the uninterpreted raw sensation, that either comes from the outside or from the body itself. Continue reading “Feel your way out of the Matrix, out of the limbo”

Feeling yourself is the key to personhood

Alienation… not feeling yourself… rigidity

One of my students sent me her collage.

A collage is an artwork where the hidden surfaces. We think one things but what is the truth, what is underneath it come out in a well-done collage.

We all feel disconnected, isolated, not quite belonging, lacking intimacy, and we think that it is from circumstances, like COVID or the other person, or maybe even you. Continue reading “Feeling yourself is the key to personhood”

Stay Open In The Pain. Experience it with eyes open

One of the humanity-wide issues is this: you feel something and then immediately jump to the meaning.

You CREATE the meaning with words.

The jump is from reality to unreality. The meaning never happened. It can’t even exist without the words…

  • This is how pain becomes suffering.
  • This is how fear becomes anxiety.
  • And this is how sadness becomes depression. Through the words.

Continue reading “Stay Open In The Pain. Experience it with eyes open”

Do You Think You Can Tell WHAT You See? Accurately?

Most of us, we are sure we can see everything. We are sure we see the world exactly the way it is.

We make decisions based on what we see. And our decisions and actions take us to live the life we live.

Most of us live a life of quiet desperation. It was true at the time of Henry David Thoreau, and it is true now.

We don’t even know why we see something that isn’t there, and why we don’t see things that are there… But ultimately we clearly make decisions, act from faulty data, faulty information. Garbage in/Garbage out. Continue reading “Do You Think You Can Tell WHAT You See? Accurately?”

Become your own rainmaker… start using your brain

Your brain is an Unused Resource

It is what most rainmakers do. Start using unused resources.

Rainmaking is a business/industry distinction.

There is a business that does so-so. A new CEO or leader comes in and restructures the company and their results go through the roof.

But the same thing can be done on any level, including the level of the person, or your own self. Your own life. Continue reading “Become your own rainmaker… start using your brain”

Did Your Personality Get Put Together? Or Born That Way?

I got a thank you note today. I get quite a few of those, I must admit.

They are a great way for me to track how the methodologies and principles I use in my teaching work. I mean, how effective I am, how effective the methods are. They track my ability to make a difference in the world. (Someone please remind me to write about how I view my making a difference… OK?)

This note reads Continue reading “Did Your Personality Get Put Together? Or Born That Way?”

Watching Netflix, Plugged Up Toilet, Higher Vibration

If you know me, you know that I love movies. There was a time in my life when I thought that meant that I should, somehow, work in or with movies.

Today I know better. Movies is Source’s way to talk to me, to open my mind, help make me an Expanding Human Being.

So, what about movies… are you going to talk about movies now? Continue reading “Watching Netflix, Plugged Up Toilet, Higher Vibration”

Carrot or Stick? How to win at promises you make to yourself

new year resolutionsWe all know this, it is too common to think that you don’t have it.

You find yourself attracted to some kind of project. Maybe a new habit, or an exercise regimen.
It feels like a done deal: it is all yours. Done deal, it is in the bag… and then you wake up one morning, maybe as soon as next day, and all the inspiration is gone, and you are back to being pedestrian. Plus feelings, like shame, confusion, of puzzlement. Continue reading “Carrot or Stick? How to win at promises you make to yourself”

Entitlement is a worldview? Really? Not an attitude?

entitlementErnest Hemingway once wrote a story on a restaurant napkin In Key West, a story in six words.

For sale: baby shoes, never worn

He could have written about all humans, about my students… who are just like those baby shoes; unfulfilled dreams… unfulfilled potential.

I just finished my ‘Distinctions’ podcast call that today was all about entitlement.

The podcast is the recording of a weekly (Friday) conversation between a student of mine and myself.  I designed it to go deep in some areas of life, an invisible dynamic…

Entitlement is invisible in ourselves… Continue reading “Entitlement is a worldview? Really? Not an attitude?”