How to find your real self… instead of honoring your false self as yourself

As I have written before, the book I am reading now is the Metaskills.

The author is a designer, and looks at life through a designer's glasses.

The article "You live in a world of your own design" is one of the favorite articles on my site. People want to design their lives.

The popularity of the program, Mind Movies builds on that desire to design... but the requirements for design are not there, not there for 99.99% of humanity... What is there is something else, something that doesn't allow for design.

The basics of being a designer is what is most missing in life... if you really look, you can see it. Continue reading "How to find your real self… instead of honoring your false self as yourself"

What if you have something blocking you from growing? The Seven Boulders principle

BoulderWhen you decide on an organizing principle, aka direction for your life, you'll suddenly find yourself with obstacles blocking even your view of the horizon, let alone your path.

This article is about that...

Some ten years ago I learned a valuable way of looking at making life meaningful, or living a meaningful life. The teacher suggested that we pick a horizon, a direction, and then look what's blocking the way of getting there.

Since then I saw that even seeing the horizon is blocked... Blocked by seven boulders, lined up one behind the other, blocking your view, blocking your movement.

So, in my coaching practice, when I ask people to set a direction, and they can't see any, I am inclined to suggest that they choose the direction: living a meaningful live, or a fulfilled life... without specifying what it is.

The goal is to see the first boulder that blocks your view, that blocks your path.
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There is a Science to life… and if you want more life, you need to follow it

There is a Science to Life... and if you want more life, you need to follow it, you need to work WITH Life.

But you, and most everyone else, think yourself smarter than everyone else... and your mantra in life is "Don't tell me what to do!" or "I'll do it my way!" and you follow your mantra, not Life.

And your life is a true mirror to that attitude: nothing is done exactly, no rules are followed exactly, and your life is shabby, hodge podge, and you are wretched.

Why is it that not every person get the promised results out of reading the book, The Science of Getting Rich? Or any other course or program? Really, that less than 1% do? Is it always the fault of the teacher?

Here are a few things about The Science of Getting Rich, the highest truth value book I have ever measured... Continue reading "There is a Science to life… and if you want more life, you need to follow it"

The Law of 33%, or why you resist this as if your life depended on it?

One of the brilliant ideas from the 67 steps that hardly anyone considers as applying to them is the idea of spending at least one third of their discretionary time in the company of people who are ahead of them. Preferably by 20 years of experience and wisdom and results in a certain area of life.

These people will be able to teach you something, and you will feel small, ignorant, and maybe even worthless.

But you'll have a chance to learn something useful.

Instead people prefer spending time with ignorant people they can feel smarter than. This is one of the main reasons you can continue feeling a lot more valuable than you actually are.

In my article "democratic" says more about this...

One of my students in the 67 steps coaching decided to start listening to me. That was a huge step for him... This happened after a whole year of pretending that he did in fact listen to me.

As a result he observed his environment and found that his boss is one of those 20 years ahead of him guys.

He went and talked to him. Continue reading "The Law of 33%, or why you resist this as if your life depended on it?"

Principle: Make your plane land on the landing strip, regardless of the weather

make your plane go where you want it to goI have been "harping" on this with my students: hear the principle first, and then hear the rest...

If I asked you (Cinderella) to separate the wheat from the chaff... what would you do first? If you are like me, you first find out what is the difference... in looks, in weight, and then start separating them accordingly.

I even used to use this capacity (oh, forgot to say, it's a capacity!) to hire or not hire someone to work with me. I would ask someone to separate a pile of things by their category...

For you Everything is the same as everything else ... except not always

Universally missing capacity... I found out.  The underlying capacity can be said with these words: be able to tell the forest for the trees. Continue reading "Principle: Make your plane land on the landing strip, regardless of the weather"

Spiritual Practice: ask What is it that I am not seeing? It gets you out of the mind

Most things that hide in plain sight are crucial to your success in life. You may be staring at them, but like a color blind person looking at the colored dots that hide the number... you cannot see.

Between you and me: you probably have never asked yourself "What is it I am not seeing?" have you?

Why don't you ask, why don't you don't look?
  • If you think that you know everything: you won't look.
  • If you think you see clearly what's in front of you... you won't look.

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Knowledge is not power… unless

Unless you know what you learned... you didn't learn anything.
And unless what you leaned changes your behavior, inside or outside, nothing will change.

All learning is behavior modification, to become more fit to life, to play the game of life better, for yourself and for the human race.

So how do you modify behavior?

The process starts with an insight. The more energy is in the insight, the more energy you can bring to the insight, the easier it will be to make the modification. Continue reading "Knowledge is not power… unless"

My process to get myself unstuck on a project to double my income…

I have been working on the project of doubling my income by adding a new revenue source.

This article is my private process. I wrote it to get myself over the hump. To clarify some things. To get unstuck.

So some places it's sketchy... it is my process and it has fulfilled its purpose: I have gained the clarity from doing it that will help me to get to the next hump... because that is how life works.

If life is smooth sailing, then you are not growing. Then you are not challenging yourself. Then you are most likely going down on a greased chute. Continue reading "My process to get myself unstuck on a project to double my income…"

How to manage yourself for change?

manage-yourself-for changeI guess it is that time of the year... where the broken faced child comes out of the woodwork...

Life is cyclical. In addition to the visible cycles, there are invisible cycles.

They are intimately connected to some early life events... there is nothing you can do about them coming up: a cycle must repeat.

One of these cycles is the broken faced child coming out to torment you.

Rarely if ever I see someone who has something I "envy".

Envy is a sign that they have something that you want, for yourself. It is a good thing if you look at it that way.

In most of us, the soul has a warped way to communicate to us. Probably because we don't listen to gentler nudges.

So, yesterday I saw something that I'd like. In this Tai Lopez person I write about in my previous article.

So, just before I went to bed I muscle tested if his IQ is higher than mine.
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What is the connection between respect and appreciation?

unprepared... jumpingWhat is the connection between respect and appreciation? Both respect and appreciation are spiritual capacities... states of being.

I am having a lot of insights lately. Of course, it was predictable: I am running an experimental workshop: it is driving up the questions.

When you have questions, relevant questions, you are going to get insights. Irrelevant questions? no insights.

Anyway, the circumstance this morning is this: I accidentally double-paid for the Tai Lopez course. Sent a support request to get a refund, and they answered that their policy was to talk to me, to make sure I was who I said I was.

I have been fuming about this. I mean my lower parts are fuming, and I, the Self, have been observing it with curiosity. Very strong emotions, by the way...

What is it that is offending my lower self?

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