Why are you still a one-legged person in an ass kicking contest?
As I have said before, when your hydration is at or above 30%, you feel more solid, as if before you had been standing on one foot, balancing, precariously... and suddenly you are standing on both feet... stable.
You have more room for things to be "off", off-kilter , and less in a fixing mode, knee jerk reaction mode.
Once you have achieved that level of well-being, physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually, you should be able to notice when you are standing on one foot again.
You may not think it's your hydration... but you should. Really.
When the world is your oyster, you have a world that can create pearls for you, valuable pearls for you life... That is the meaning of the expression. You just have to create irritation in that world, a difficulty, like the grain of sand in the actual oyster and it starts building a pearl (value) for you.
As long as you shy away from controversy, difficulty, hardship, pain, etc... the world won't offer you its pearls...
You can pick anything. But it must be a skill that includes visible results... measurable results.
If you want to learn the skill of reading... at the end of the 20th hour you'll be able to read without losing attention of patience... length of time, comprehension, number of books is a measurable, visible result.
If you want to learn the ukulele... just get ready to play to an audience.
If you want to learn to move your attention from your emotions, thoughts, reactions to reality... we'll measure your results by the percentage of time you spend in your mind, being miserable.
If you want to learn to cook, let's say, Hungarian dishes, we'll see and taste your dishes... it is visible, and tangible.
It is really up to you to pick the target... and then follow through.
I woke up at 3 am with a start from a deep dream about principles spinning so hard that I could only follow them with full concentration...
I stared into the dark for a few minutes still seeing the images of the principles, and I got the words that go with the images:
Principles are like oncoming trains... you can't fight them unless you want to crash your life.
I talk a lot about connecting the dots... and most don't know what I am talking about. Connecting the dots is a highly intellectual activity based on SEEING that things are connected by more than just similarity: by invisible cords...
When I wrote the article about racial, ancestral identity and its importance, I touched on something that is not valuable for most people... because I didn't go deep enough and I didn't accurately identify what it takes to be proud of who you are, where you belong.
I got on the phone with one of the people who was very unhappy about that article... I was eager to talk, because it is near impossible to go beyond the visible by yourself. It is a whole lot easier when you get input... because what is invisible to you can be visible for another.
How do you know that you are slipping onto the horizontal plane... the plane of the valley of the shadow of death? hell...
It is on the vertical plane where you can say: A is A. Fully accepting reality, resisting none of it. Having no need to hide from it, changing it, wishing it away.
Reality is the way it is. You are a guest to it... and like a guest, you'll find that it is not the way YOU would run the show... and that is OK. The show goes the way the show goes.
If you add anything, out loud or in your head or in your feelings... then A is not A, and you are not on the vertical. You are on the horizontal plane, where A is not A, where reality's rules are resisted, and where you can only be unhappy, forcing your will, or resign to never have what you want.