Invisible Dynamic: Undeclared commitments: what is under the hood

My horoscope often tells me what I should be dealing with, either for myself, or for you and me.

This is the horoscope I received in my email box today, from Rob Brezsny:

If you were a snake, it would be a fine time to molt your skin. If you were a river, it would be a perfect moment to overflow your banks in a spring flood. If you were an office worker, it would be an excellent phase to trade in your claustrophobic cubicle for a spacious new niche. In other words, you are primed to outgrow at least one of your containers. The boundaries you knew you would have to transgress (step over the boundary, infringe or go beyond the bounds of) some day are finally ready to be transgressed. Even now, your attention span is expanding and your imagination is stretching.

Obviously he uses the word "transgress" to express that you are in some self imposed prison, he calls it container. Rob Brezsny is a typical California positive language dude... not a straight talk dude, like myself.

Now, whether it is addressed to me, or whether it is addressed to us, I am going to attend to both aspect.

The first thing to examine where it is where "we", you and me, consider certainty, security, knowing more comfortable than stretching.
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Hey, when you are BEING a knucklehead does it mean you ARE a knucklehead?

Hey, when you are BEING a knucklehead... does it mean you ARE a knucklehead?

Or you are just doing the only exercise most people do: jumping into conclusions.

Listen if you can recognize yourself in this story:

A lot of my clients find themselves in a trap...

For example, they make a mistake. They are frustrated. Or they are scared. Or they are angry. Or they are devastated. Even suicidal.

They say to themselves: Here I go again!...

...I am never going to get it right! I am never going to learn this... I better give up while I am ahead! I am stupid! I am a loser! and on and on and on I could go with the examples how people abuse themselves.

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Consolidating new learning with habit stacking

habit stacking, knowledge buildingAs I said in previous articles, you may do a lot of actions consistent with learning, that look like learning, and yet what you attempted to learn doesn't become knowledge.

It becomes knowledge, accurate or inaccurate, when it moves into long term memory, where all the knowledge particles are now connected. By long term memory I don't mean your mind. Your mind is something entirely different, no action comes from the mind... the mind is like Grand Central Station: who knows who is in charge? Surely not you... Continue reading "Consolidating new learning with habit stacking"

Growth, change is an epigenetic shift… The first phase is plugging the leaks

Genetics is hardware. Epigenetics is software. Loosely speaking.

Capacities, in the DNA, can be expressed, switched on or switched off.

When you change, you do more than just surface changes: in effect you change how the DNA, capacities, etc. get switched on or switched off... you are creating epigenetic changes. And not just physical, the aspect "science" is talking about, but the whole person. Not just fat/skinny health conscious, life-unconscious aspect... but really the whole intelligent person who you are or... ahem... not.

The first phase of growth is to plug the leaks of energy, life force, glycogen, time, working memory... eliminate the mistakes, sloppiness, etc.

I am currently working on changing my sleep schedule, to get up around five... So that I can get more done before I have to talk to anyone, or have anyone around with strong emotions, hijacking my attention. Continue reading "Growth, change is an epigenetic shift… The first phase is plugging the leaks"

From Hated to Loved – a case study

How I found myself loved, respected, and maybe even revered... a tale of extraordinary transformation, from hated smart know-it-all to loved

I used to be smart. At all cost. In fact smarter, that would be more precise to say. Smarter than you, him, them... 😉

You see, it almost didn't matter whether I was happy, rich, pretty, healthy, as long as I could be smarter than you.

Most people hated me, and I had few if any friends.

Since my vibration rose to where it's at today, I have had no issues, people actually like me, most of them anyway.

Recently I had a curious phenomenon happening to me.
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Reader question answered: Why have I been unable to grow? Soul fragmentation?

Dear Sophie,

I have been unable to grow, to learn, to move from A to B. I have been spending a lot of time reading your articles, doing your courses, and yet: no result.

Is there anything I am missing?

Your case reminds me of some hopeless health cases just before I discovered that there is such a thing as energetic attachments.

The client would stay out of balance, leaking energy left and right, in spite of all the things we did...

Then, finally a client arrived who felt that he was systematically abused and life force siphoned away by his ex. Continue reading "Reader question answered: Why have I been unable to grow? Soul fragmentation?"

Capacities, distinctions, intelligence, and success in life: strong correlation.

Let's start with debunking the current world view, that intelligence is inborn. We are all born tabula raza... a blank slate.

Your intelligence depends on the number of large chunks, neural connections permanently formed in your brain firing together automatically. Those chunks are created in learning.

Reality has two parts: the visible reality, the part that can be perceived by anyone, and the invisible reality that is governed by the invisible dynamics... that you actually need to learn to see.

The invisible reality is an iceberg: the visible part provides clues for the invisible part: that there is something invisible yet real. Depending on how you look at the visible part, through what vantage point, you are going to see different aspects of the invisible. One of the ways, one of the vantage points to look through is the learning to learn course.

The principle of intelligence is: the more problem solving chunks your brain has, i.e. the more neural connections you have, or speaking in transformational technology terms: the more distinctions you have, the more difficult problems you can solve.

Life is full of difficult problems that you can either solve or you suffer. The most pain comes from other people.

When I measure how many spiritual capacities you have active in your DNA, the correlation between the number of spiritual capacities, the number of distinctions, and success in life is obvious, although the why isn't quite obvious... yet.

What qualifies a "spiritual" teacher to teach, is that they are one step ahead of their students, one lesson...

At least that is what I thought until this morning.

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The third brain… immersion: the secret to mastery of life and growth

There are, in my experience, three thinking brains, at least potentially, in every human...

The first thinking brain, the mind, that is in cahoots, in collusion, working against you with the selfish gene. That is what creates a life of reactivity, full of fear, full of anxiety, full of sharp turns and devastating jerks. I've lived there... and I hated it.

The second thinking brain, the one that evaluates, reasons, figures stuff out, is slow and plodding, and hard work. Creates real solutions, keeps you out of trouble... but not fun.

And then there is the third thinking brain... the work of thinking is done in the background, on the back burner, while the foreground is silent, resting, or busy learning something new..

That is where I live now.

I am getting a few questions about that, and I decided to tell you as much as I can see... the mechanism is largely hidden from my view... It is in the background...

I'll use myself, and clients' and students' stuff as illustrations...

In the past month I saw more maturing, more "going to the next level" than I had seen in all my career as a coach.
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Trying without trying… thinking without thinking… how to activate the third brain

learning without thinkingUnless you learn reasoning, and thinking with your reasoning mind, you are locked into the reactive mind to make decisions for you.

But real accomplishments, being a leader, and inventing something cannot be done with the reactive mind... while real big things cannot be done with the plodding, reasoning mind either.

The job of individual growth is to make the thinking instinctual, that it flows out of you like water.

In the seventh year of my career as an architect and structural designer, I had enough practice and thinking and calculations under my belt that I could "guess" the dimensions of most weight bearing elements of a building, accurately. Continue reading "Trying without trying… thinking without thinking… how to activate the third brain"

Build on what you have, instead of starting something new… Integrate or eliminate

I just got an email from one-time coach of mine in internet marketing.

He says that one of the reasons he loves information products because he gets to see the difference it makes in people's lives.

I muscle testes that statement, and muscle test says it was a lie. Or more precisely, it had a 1% truth value.

One of the most important things for you to learn from me, is that people lie.

They buy something because they want the result it promises, the result it can produce if the person who buys it uses it the way it was meant to be used. Continue reading "Build on what you have, instead of starting something new… Integrate or eliminate"