On depression: being not at the right place, not in the right environment, not doing the right thing, not being the right one.
Depression is and has been the marker of my road… like the fields on the side of the road mark out the road.
Inevitably oftentimes the road leads into the field, or the field creeps into the road… and a depressed mood, a hopelessness, a futility starts mixing into my life.
It is hard to sleep, or hard to get up, or both.
Nothing changed and everything changed.
I have been watching it with curiosity mixed with worry… it is not pleasant to be depressed.
But today curiosity won out: I stopped worrying about death.
In this article am going to allow Source to guide me to know more, to allow me to be the captain of my ship more…
Continue reading “On depression: I think I nailed it”
Update 4/4/17: New insight: Building Bridges (BB) is quite slothful by nature… I am changing the picture to an actual bridge… because it is a more apt illustration: you want to get to the other side, and you need to do a ton of work to get there… and you have no skills… but to build skills you also have to build a bridge between the thought and the action that builds skills… So most Building Bridges never actually do anything. The only BB I have ever seen do something is a guy who has undertook reading… and following that method, he is now adding skills to his toolbox. He may amount to much.
So what is the trick?
I recommended that he starts reading not worrying if he understands, or if he enjoys it. He trusted me and started to read that way. After a while comprehension imperceptibly grew, and now he enjoys reading.
Once a BB experiences how learning a skill works, they grow wings.
It takes a lot of skills to build a bridge, but each bridge is the same: you have to start with no visible results plus faith. Faith that the investment will work out, even though they can’t see it.
Without this a BB will just live randomly, thrown about like a dry leaf, never amounting to anything.
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Continue reading “Soul Correction: Building Bridges Updated”
One of the 67 steps talks about the acquired attitude in life, called by Martin Seligman: Learned Helplessness.
It is a distinction, and it seems that none of my students have even attempted to observe it, identify it, and recognize it… like the color in the color exercise.
Because nearly everyone has it, and because it is so important to recognize it, recognize it as a learned behavior, not innate, not natural, not coming from the Tree of Life, I am going to do the work here… as a demonstration of what mastering the color exercise can give you. Continue reading “The crucial difference between being flexible and being floppy, or What is the difference between people who grow and people who don’t?”
March is a survival month. I have been observing it for 30 years. If a business can make it past March, then it will make it another year. This is due to people’s (the buyers who keep business in business) spending habits…
For people, the reason they don’t have money to spend in January, February and March, I think, begins by overspending in December. Then they scramble through January, February and March to make up for the Christmas indulgence.
Most people live hand to mouth, YOLO, Epicurian… Continue reading “Who or what is in power in your life. You or something or someone else?”
This article is from 2013… but it seems that a lot of people have influenza, especially in Europe, and therefore I am re-publishing this article…
The last few days have been extraordinary. Not good, not very bad, simply not my ordinary days.
I have had a heart-to-heart with my ego that didn’t want to allow me to grow business-wise. It was very interesting… you should watch the replay if you don’t know what I am talking about.
I have had a lot done, mostly stuff that was stressful, scary, new, and there was a lot of emotions around it.
The energy attacks resumed last Thursday, so I experience frequent debilitating pain.
I am tired. My eyes are hurting, my body is hurting, but the mind screams: “Soldier on…”
Continue reading “Republished: When you are sick, your job is to be sick…”
Cone vision can be wide and narrow, or Short and long… This distinction was driven up today by a student question: He watched the movie “The Founder” about Ray Kroc of MacDonald’s fame.
I haven’t watched the movie, but in it, according to the student, Ray Kroc was offered the chance to sell franchises to the MacDonald method of making and selling food. To the student’s sensibilities: Ray Kroc was shortchanged: the deal was not a win-win. And having to always be in an obvious win-win is one of his preferences… and therein lies his no success… Let me talk about what is happening in a long article.
Everything you see can be looked at many ways. In this article I will talk about seeing inside the visible.
Continue reading “If your life feels like a roller coaster ride… If all your attempts at improving your life make it worse…”
And how it doesn’t mean to please everybody, or even one person. You’ll see…
Our language is so corrupt, it is hard to find a person who means what they say… I mean the words. You’ll see what meeting others’ expectation is… Not what’s on the illustrations… 🙁
The most willfully ignored need, in my experience, is the need to meet others’ expectation.
What prevents you from honoring that need is a misunderstanding. Or we could say: the mis-weighing bias. All biases are misunderstanding how things work, shortcuts that give you a different result than what you expected.
In not honoring but ignoring this need, your chances for success, your chances for love, for self-expression, for happiness are so greatly diminished, it’s not even funny. Continue reading “Why is the “need to meet others’ expectation” so important, and why it’s a mistake to not honor it?”
But this hidden agenda, to profit from every interaction, at your expense is not limited to the internet, it is just easier to see the dynamic there. It is harder to see it in person to person interactions, with every single person you interact with, or in books, articles, organizations, charity, politics, or people and their pets.
And it is hardest to see in yourself.
I am not condemning it: it seems that “desire for the self alone” is having a new renaissance, and you either don’t notice it, or are in a conspiracy for “I won’t tell on you, if you won’t tell on me.”
I am a person who is well trained to help people create a context for their lives, for their relationships, for their businesses… a context, words, a speaking that sells the attractive part (bait) and hides the sinister. It is a misuse of my training and talent, but it is a possible use.
You want what you want however you can get it, but you want to appear saintly, or generous, or appear working towards something that is bigger than yourself.
Continue reading “Almost everything you find on the internet has hidden agendas”
We all want to learn about ourselves… Knowledge is power. Understanding allows us to make sense of why things happen the way they do.
We are going to learn a new word that expresses a feeling that has been collapsed, confused with others… to take away our clarity.
One of the gems I’ve mined from the book “Feelings” is isolating a particular feeling, the orienting feeling of distaste.
Distaste has wide range. What is common in any range is a slight desire to vomit. You feel it going from the stomach to the throat and back.
That is the essence of distaste? It is a feeling that indicates: purge because it is not good for you. Whatever the “it” is… Continue reading “Distaste: the orienting feeling that you want to observe in yourself to learn about yourself”
The same faulty thinking, the same thinking that makes you not do things that don’t directly produce money, or the results you seek, the same thinking that makes you a chef with no food in the pantry, is what keeps your relationships empty, and causes your vibration to remain low.
I was just looking at a post of mine: an Osho talk.
He says: Allow Silence to Grow
It triggered a distaste in my mouth. I published that article and I am suddenly knocking it? WTF, right?
But there is a reason… I have changed. I see things that even just a week ago could not see
I have to confess something: I am reading a book, called “Feelings” and inadvertently it has knocked my vibration up a notch. How? Why? It managed to put me in touch with some feelings I have been protecting myself from.
Continue reading “Working on the thing you want, directly, is a mistake…”