Any occurrence of not understanding something begins the process. Continue reading “Life is unnecessarily hard for us. How do I know?”
I am reading it for you and for me.
This book has given me a big insight… and ultimately a breakthrough, though we shall see… like with everything, on the long run.
OK, let me start at the beginning.
Most books are either easy or difficult to read. Why? I just found out.
This book, the Metaskills was alternating between easy to read and difficult to read.
At some point it felt like thick mud I needed to wade through.
Why? I had no idea how what he was talking about was connecting to what the book was supposedly about.
I am nearly certain that this happens to you too. The thought is ‘What does this have to do with the price of tea in China?’ or some other dismissive thought.
If you have a problem keeping your word… Noticing and handling that may be your first step towards growth and becoming a person…
Keeping your word, especially the word that you gave to yourself is a big issue… This article is digging deep for the causes and the solutions.
Keeping your word has two elements: the word you give… and the behavior that follows.
The self-consciousness I talk about this other article makes you make promises that are not possible for you to keep. Either the promise is too vague, or you have no business to promise what you are promising. Continue reading “If you have a problem keeping your word… That may be your first step”
And what you see depends 100% of your available capacities.
You don’t even look… because you know what is there… you know there is nothing to see.
The difference between a blind person and you is that the blind person knows she cannot see.
Why can’t you see? For two reasons: Continue reading “Your behavior is always consistent with what you see… All your mistakes come from here…”
UPDATE: I have some underachiever friends and students. I suspect that they may have dyslexia. It just occurred to me… after two excruciatingly difficult conversations in a row… where the partners in the conversation felt stuck, dense, and their level of comprehension is low.
Both are men, both are making a living in their own business, both shy away from learning anything new.
It is one of the worst things for me when I try to teach someone something that they need, and they nod and yes me to death, only to do the opposite or nothing.
Every human wants to make a difference, wants to matter, more than anything, and this flies in the face of that…
But maybe they are dyslexic. Hm.
Download the pdf version of this article at the end of the article
Continue reading “Dyslexia – the good news and the bad news…”
In my coaching calls and even watching, observing myself, I have realized that some foundational skills are missing. They are the kind of foundation without which you simply can’t have what you want, you can’t feel better about yourself, and you can’t accomplish much of anything worth writing home about.
So I have to either find a way or make one, to teach you the missing skills.
In this case I’d prefer to find a way, after all if someone is already teaching it, why invent the wheel.
One of the videos I found is a TEDx talk by Barbara Arrowsmith-Young, the founder of the brain plasticity based brain training center.
Continue reading “Change your brain… and you can change your life”
His favorites are fantasy and fiction, including Viking and Greek mythology.
Now, if I asked you what’s the difference between you and this kid, what would you say?
You probably think that I am accusing you with not reading enough, so you would reach for some excuses, and some self-justification, not enough time, blah blah blah.
Some of you would say that you read as much, but you read it on the Internet, emails and such.
Continue reading “How to develop the wisdom you need to be able to tell truth from fiction, truth from a lie?”
A few years ago, (maybe 3?) I went over the list of people I was angry at, or disappointed by. I made an all-out attempt to liberate myself from the bondage anger or disappointment creates.
Anger, resentment, disappointment: all symptoms of ego/mind, all symptoms of thinking of the future and feeling threatened. Look at how the Indonesian Mimic Octopus makes sure that they don’t fall prey to having any reason for anger, etc. But humans are not as intelligent: they willingly put themselves in that position… Don’t forget to read the rest of the article once you are done watching the video
I knew, in theory, that no one can do anything to you. That it is not what they do that makes you miserable, it is what you say about it. That it’s always your ego that is bruised.
But there is a difference between theory and practice. You know it, and I know it.
Continue reading “Anger, Resentment, Disappointment: How To Liberate Yourself?”