UPDATE: I have some underachiever friends and students. I suspect that they may have dyslexia. It just occurred to me... after two excruciatingly difficult conversations in a row... where the partners in the conversation felt stuck, dense, and their level of comprehension is low.
Both are men, both are making a living in their own business, both shy away from learning anything new.
It is one of the worst things for me when I try to teach someone something that they need, and they nod and yes me to death, only to do the opposite or nothing.
Every human wants to make a difference, wants to matter, more than anything, and this flies in the face of that...
It seems it is video-day here in my house... today. Mind you, I am not quite doing it for entertainment, I am looking for some solution.
In my coaching calls and even watching, observing myself, I have realized that some foundational skills are missing. They are the kind of foundation without which you simply can't have what you want, you can't feel better about yourself, and you can't accomplish much of anything worth writing home about.
So I have to either find a way or make one, to teach you the missing skills.
In this case I'd prefer to find a way, after all if someone is already teaching it, why invent the wheel.
A few years ago, (maybe 3?) I went over the list of people I was angry at, or disappointed by. I made an all-out attempt to liberate myself from the bondage anger or disappointment creates.
Anger, resentment, disappointment: all symptoms of ego/mind, all symptoms of thinking of the future and feeling threatened. Look at how the Indonesian Mimic Octopus makes sure that they don't fall prey to having any reason for anger, etc. But humans are not as intelligent: they willingly put themselves in that position... Don't forget to read the rest of the article once you are done watching the video
I knew, in theory, that no one can do anything to you. That it is not what they do that makes you miserable, it is what you say about it. That it's always your ego that is bruised.