When you learn a new word, it opens the world for you

Turning things around… creating a turning point

I have a potential turning point for how I teach and what I teach… I saw it yesterday.

It’s a potential turning point, because I am not sure I can do it. After all I would be teaching something I did not learn myself. So I don’t even know if it is teachable. But at least now I understand what is going on. Why the results are sporadic.

I’ll explain later, after the story… but let’s start with a story, OK? Continue reading “When you learn a new word, it opens the world for you”

A distinction not many would recognize…

distinction This distinction is called perpetration-withhold.

I have a new friend who lives walking distance from me. I can see her house and driveway from my office window, or could, but in the summer there is a stretch of dense woods between us, with wildlife… Continue reading “A distinction not many would recognize…”

Why I stopped participating in Landmark Education?

The four core default contexts… or Why I stopped participating in Landmark Education?

Actually, I continued to participate in Landmark Education after the incident I’ll tell you about… but NEVER intended to contribute any more. Or not really. I was participating from hurt… knowing that what was broken cannot be fixed.

18 years ago, as I was coaching someone, it became clear to me that there are this four core invisibles, that are underneath every issue, every distinction, every weird, unethical, unsavory action a human being makes. Continue reading “Why I stopped participating in Landmark Education?”

From the limited perspective of the human mind… why you make so many mistakes??

Most authors, most gurus, most spiritual/money/prosperity/marketing teachers each contributed one distinction to me… if any.

Actually, most didn’t… Famous ones, successful ones, amazing ones… nothing. I was left with nothing.

One of these distinctions, by Robert Scheinfeld, is considering that all you see when you look is through the limited perspective of the human mind. The 1%.

But seeing things the only way we can is not the problem. You see what you see. Continue reading “From the limited perspective of the human mind… why you make so many mistakes??”

The methodology of making the invisible visible

All mischief and all power comes from the invisible. Invisible to you, and maybe invisible to society.

It’s not hidden. It is just not obvious to the untrained eyes. What your eyes need is training and guidance.

My methodology, observing life through many distinctions, is a winning one.

It drives up, and makes visible what has thus far been invisible.

Racket, frame, memes, voices, states… the distinctions are all opportunities to see another aspect of the invisible, and gain control over yourself, so you can start moving in the direction of the good life, whatever good life is for you.

For example, your soul correction. It is a distinction to look through and see some formerly invisible stuff. Continue reading “The methodology of making the invisible visible”

Reframing: is losing weight hard? is it hard work?

I wrote this article in 2017. It has some truth, but not all that much… I am fat again, and the weight, this time, doesn’t want to move. I don’t walk… so take it with a grain of salt… Please.

 

I went grocery shopping today on my own. I was carrying some 20 lbs of groceries up the steps to get home.

This was the first time in maybe 6-7 years. I don’t drive. So I walked and took the bus and walked some more.

Why am I doing this?

Life tends to make us soft, complacent, comfortable, and comfortable people don’t grow, don’t evolve. In fact they devolve, they shrink.

So when I first had this brought to my attention, in one of the steps of the 67 steps, I set out to make life and myself comfortable with nob being comfortable… and I started to devise new and newer ways to toughen up.

I keep the house at a steady 47 degrees. I walk. I now walk to get my grocery. I walked this week to get a haircut. I refrain from palliative remedies.

It is a great idea to read Freud’s ‘Civilization and its discontents’ to see what you, humans do to deal with the fact that life is hard.

He says: Life, as we find it, is too hard for us; it brings us too many pains, disappointments and impossible tasks. In order to bear it we cannot dispense with palliative measures

Life is hard, but you can start dealing with life instead of running from the hardness, instead: dealing with the hardness. Dealing with life.

The benefits are immeasurable, whereas the palliative measures benefits are tiny.

One benefit is developing, opening up new spiritual capacities. The ones that will, eventually, lift you to the next evolutionary stage: human being.

When you start directing and controlling your epigenetic shifts where you actually cause your genetics change, its exhilarating. And change you to in ways you have always hoped you would change.

I ran into Leo, my musician friend. I explained to him that carrying those 20 lbs of groceries illustrated to me what it was like to climb the steps a year ago, when I was about 20 lbs heavier. In 18 months I shed 40 lbs.

He said: Losing 40 pounds is hard work.

I said ‘no it isn’t…’ He wanted to know how, and I told him that is what I get paid the big bucks for. He laughed, but it got me thinking.

There is a secret that is worth a lot of money:

As long as you eat food that isn’t compatible with your body and wants more of itself… and as long as you eat in a way that isn’t working for your body, you are going to suffer from deprivation… And although that is not work, not in the strict sense of the word, losing weight while you are dealing with a sense of deprivation, hunger, cravings is hard.

The two components of a successful and easy eating regimen, 1. what you eat, and 2. how you eat are equally important.

I haven’t written about the eating styles lately, even though, I see that eating according to your eating style is about 50% of success.

I am still not 100% adhering to mine, by the way. It’s taking me forever to surrender. I am now at 90% doing it… 1

I am lucky, I get instant heartburn from not adhering to my particular eating style. So I get a kick in the stomach as a feedback. 2

So what is an eating style?

The distinction comes from the Human Design people, and some of it is b.s. but some of it has been tested and has proven very accurate.

Depending on your mutt factor, your eating style is closer or further from how our ancestors ate about 20-30 thousand years ago.

I am closer to the ancestors in my mutt factor, and my eating style is the closest to how they ate.

When I work with people, I muscletest their eating style… instead of muscletesting their mutt factor.

  • Eating style factor 1: how do you know you are ready to eat?
  • Eating style factor 2: how you make your meals?

Factor 1: Some people need to smell their food and that starts the appetite… Appetite is the body’s message that it is able to receive and digest the food you consider. I call this type ‘cat’.

Some people need to taste their food to start the digestive juices working.

Hunger is not the same as appetite. Hunger is not necessary for appetite, in fact I haven’t been hungry for months now.

Salivation is an indicator that you are ready to eat.

Factor 2: Many people won’t get well if they cook and eat the way their mom prepared the big meals.

I, and many of my clients/students need to eat one food-thing per meal. I consider fat, salt, water, not a food-thing in this regard. I might be wrong. Too early to know.

I can eat fried eggs, but not a cheese omelet. Not even goat cheese omelet, even though goat cheese is on my allowed food list. And so are eggs. My type is called separator. Or a newer word: Alternator.

Some people are allowed to eat more than one thing per meal, if they don’t eat them in the same mouthful. The type is called Consecutive eating style.

I call the Consecutive eaters lucky… They are usually younger, as young as children.

And then some people are allowed to eat ‘normal’, to eat proper meals.

It’s quite a challenge for me to find out what eating style will work for people… Often I need to experiment. Often the style changes… like everything.

One thing is certain: if you eat only the foods in the combination that the style allows, you’ll have an easy time to be well, have lots of energy, sleep well, and never be hungry or crave foods that are not on your list.

Our bodies haven’t changed much in the past 30,000 years… and the further away you go from how we used to eat, the less health you’ll have.

OK… a little shift in topic:

As you know I have been studying Dr. Joel Wallach for 25 years.

His truth value is 30%.

Whenever he talks about the things he first hand experienced, he is right on… or close enough.

But whenever he falls victim to the certainty bias, where causation and correlation are confused, he is wrong.

It is very difficult to see what causes what in health. Testing is near impossible, and money concerns color the ‘scientific’ data.

Dr Wallach says that the reason people in the Southern states die earlier is because of the fried food they eat.

So today when I was frying my catfish (yumm!) I asked Source, and the result I got is that that is bull…

  • Frying my fish in ghee (clarified butter, the protein burned out of it) is actually not harmful.
  • Frying stuff in animal fat: ditto
  • Frying any fish in vegetable oil, including coconut or olive – on the other hand – is not something anyone’s body has adjusted to. Our ancestors didn’t do that.
Vegetable oils block most essential nutrients from being absorbed. That is the likely cause of the lower life expectancy of anyone who uses vegetable oils, not the frying.

In my family my mother switched to vegetable oils in the 1950’s… I think, and with that she effectively killed my father, killed herself, and is killing her two sons.

I don’t use vegetable oils, and haven’t since I listened to Dr. Wallach’s expose Dead Doctors Don’t Die.

There are other likely reasons for early death… Milk and milk products.

The A1 protein that causes plaque, diabetes, and whatever else that’s horrible… like addiction to morphine.

I was hooked on milk for most of my life, even though I felt it was really bad for me.

More than half of the 18 months were spent trying to kick the milk habit. It is an addiction that is really hard to break.

And here is an aside:

The French Paradox is b.s.

The French is thinner, and has less heart trouble deaths.

They eat tons of cheese and butter. Yum.

The difference is the breed of cow that gives the milk.

Dieters in France are getting fat… they replaced butter with oils… We, Americans, dumb down the world.

But I did it, and my weight is still going down. I now weigh what I weighed 30 years ago.

Even though I am only 90% adherent to my preferred style of eating.

Was it hard? It has been, actually both interesting, and uplifting. To me.

 

Reframing: Are you happy? Magical thinking to the rescue

I am always looking for guidance from whatever is giving guidance.

I am also looking for confirmation. My mind is a meaning making machine, like yours, and I catch myself looking for meaning in everything.

I am like a GPS… in order for the GPS give you accurate actions, it needs to know where you are at.

I am looking for the GPS function, the locating function part of the guidance. I am an experimenter, and I am aware, what can be easier, right? Continue reading “Reframing: Are you happy? Magical thinking to the rescue”

Intellectually slothful. It’s not that you are not smart…

Intellectually slothful

We, humans, talks a lot about IQ. And genes. And intelligent and not intelligent.

I assert that we don’t know what we are talking about. Your IQ has little to do with the quality of your life.

We don’t discern cause and effect… and this is only just one area where we don’t. 1

OK, so back to intellectually slothful… I expect to lose 99% of you here… Continue reading “Intellectually slothful. It’s not that you are not smart…”

Is it clear? Are you clear? Yes! we say and we lie

Is it clear? Are you clear? Yes! we say enthusiastically and we lie.

Clarity is one of the things we ALWAYS lie about. It’s like the speed limit… or not thinking about sex. It is a built in landmine to make sure we are never in integrity.

We view clarity if it were a black and white phenomenon. Continue reading “Is it clear? Are you clear? Yes! we say and we lie”

If it is easy to get, then it is worthless…

One of my students gave me a kindle book for my birthday.

It’s a book about practicing, for teachers. 1

The gift book came right on the heels of an insight I haven’t shared with you.

I finished my third reading Ayn Rand’s 1500 page philosophical novel. I still don’t have my own words to say what she says.

I have one sentence, that is now mine, that I own, and the sentence is “A is A. If you wish it to be something else, then you are delusional.” This is the cornerstone of Ayn Rand’s philosophy, objectivism.

I am able to own one distinction. From the 1500 pages of dense philosophy.

I am OK with that. It’s a process.

Continue reading “If it is easy to get, then it is worthless…”