What is the connection between respect and appreciation?

What is the connection between respect and appreciation? Both respect and appreciation are spiritual capacities… states of being.

I am having a lot of insights lately. Of course, it was predictable: I am running an experimental workshop: it is driving up the questions.

When you have questions, relevant questions, you are going to get insights. You ask irrelevant questions? you’ll get no insights.

Anyway, the circumstance this morning was this: I accidentally double-paid for a course. Sent a support request to get a refund, and they answered that their policy was to talk to me, to make sure I was who I said I was. Continue reading “What is the connection between respect and appreciation?”

Respect: look again… but this time differently

In the movie, Stranger Than Fiction,
our hero is doing what he is doing, unconsciously.

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When Harold Crick, the hero of the movie, starts hearing the narrating voice in his head, what the voice says takes him out of his unconsciousness, his usual way of doing things, going through life like a drone, and this changes his life.
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What can you see in the sideways view?

little red riding hoodEven if you have the driftwood capacity activated, you have to learn what it is like to be looking.

Yesterday’s article about assumptions should clue you in: you mostly are stuck with your assumption: you have never really looked and seen.

It seems that to observe, to look, to look until you see something is not a low-vibration person activity, and most people ARE low vibration… so most people never look.

The ones that do are famous at least in what they do for a living.

Quentin Tarantino… Albert Einstein, Ayn Rand.

It really seems that this capacity to look and see is very rare. Continue reading “What can you see in the sideways view?”

3 profound horoscope readings of this week

Taurus (April 20-May 20): Taurus poet Gary Snyder said, “Three-fourths of philosophy and literature is the talk of people trying to convince themselves that they really like the cage they were tricked into entering.” Personally, I think that many of us, not just philosophers and writers, do the same thing. Are you one of us? Your first assignment during the next four weeks will be to explore whether you do indeed tend to convince yourself that you like the cage you were tricked into entering. Your second assignment: If you find that you are in a cage, do everything you can to stop liking it. Third assignment: Use all your ingenuity, call on all the favors you’re owed, and conjure up the necessary magic so that you can flee the cage.

What is a horoscope? It sounds like a prediction, but in my view it is best considered a spiritual practice for the week, or longer if it is necessary.

How so, Sophie?

A spiritual practice, a real spiritual practice is a context. Or else it is just something you do… worthless, if you ask me. Continue reading “3 profound horoscope readings of this week”

Driftwood? Why driftwood?

There’s Nothing To Get And There’s Nothing To Fix… is that true?

A Cup Of Tea
Nan-in, a Japanese Zen master during the Meiji era (1868 – 1912), received a university professor who came to him to inquire about Zen.

Nan-in served tea. He poured it into his visitor’s cup until it was full, and then he kept on pouring.

The professor watched it overflow until he could no longer restrain himself. “It’s full. No more will go in!” he cried out.

“Like this cup,” Nan-in said, “you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?”

Why am I sharing this anecdote? I intend to return You To Power So You Can Have Grace, Ease And Power Inside The Machine And Make the machine and your life Fly

But your cup is full… you already know the meaning of everything… in fact have known it forever… and therefore your life is fixed, and that’s that. So you merely sample what I teach, you pick and choose what you like and don’t like, even what you hear or ignore.

Maybe you can’t do better. Maybe you can only see what is visible from the singular vantage point: from behind your eyes.

What does that mean?

There is a word in the English language that is used in a limiting way: only as duty, or what you should do. Continue reading “Driftwood? Why driftwood?”

Finish What You Started, Complete What You Started but didn’t Finish?

finish what you started… Or how do you destroy your life, little by little…

There is nothing more significant in destroying your self-image than starting something, with all the hopes and aspirations it takes to start something and abandoning in before it is finished.

Even if you knew yourself as a great person deserving of the dream you set out to accomplish with the project, by abandoning it, by leaving it in the middle, you declare yourself as undeserving, someone less than a match to your dreams.

When you don’t finish a project, you set yourself up for more of the same, it is a self-strengthening cycle.

It’s all downhill from there. You continue life with a lot of your life force lost to that incident. Now you know yourself as someone who can’t be counted on. Your experience of yourself is that you are a failure, a wannabe, and you hate yourself.
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How to get out of the trap seeing yourself as a victim?

quarterdoubleheadI once had a boy friend who refused to have sex with me when I wanted it, saying that I was using him. When he wanted… that was OK.

This article is a little sloppy, stream of consciousness… let me know if it is too sloppy… please.

I just had an interesting conversation with one of my students.

I have been suspicious as to why she was less than enthusiastic in her course work for the 67 steps coaching.

So I asked, this morning:

…answer one question: why are you in this program? What would you like to get out of it?

In terms of the good life…

I don’t mean to say that you are wrong, I mean to say that without being somewhat clear on what you want, you will only…

Fair question, right? You need to know why you are doing something if you want to do it well.

This was her answer:
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What do you have to lose? Respect? Regard? Fame? Fortune? Your illusions?

Whatever you pursue, whatever you chase, whatever you desire and feel you cannot be without is running from you.

Whether it is tangible or intangible, chasing it is the surest way to never get it.

The ITCH we all have, the thing we chase is one of those things.

Whether it is success, happiness, respect, love, being well thought of… and myriad of other things…

I have a student who wants to be thanked and acknowledged. He does a lot of good things, and he is never thanked. He is still surprised… He says that the Law or Attraction people told him to want it and want it even more… yet the laws of nature cannot be rigged… not even if you call it a law that isn’t… the more he wants it, the less he’ll get it. Continue reading “What do you have to lose? Respect? Regard? Fame? Fortune? Your illusions?”

How to find your direction?

the calling

Summary: One of the most frequent questions people ask or think is: what is my soul’s purpose? what am I supposed to do with my life? How to live on purpose to get fulfillment, and a sense of life well lived? This article contributes the purpose part…

If you want to do this exercise correctly, you need a distance to see the forest for the trees. With distance comes “Witness” and you begin to see, without the constant chatter of the Mind, that tries to tell you what you should see to look good, to be good, to be socially acceptable, to conform to your own expectations of what’s good… all misleading. Your job is to see what is so, not what should be so.

With distance you see even the time-line. Tendencies, trends, inclinations. You can see what was important and what wasn’t. 1
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Apocalypse: an opportunity to develop some capacities to be ready for anything

plans for the apocalypse, but not lifeThis is an article partially rewritten by me. It is from Rob Brezsny from his book, Pronoia… with my notes, annotations…

He describes, through the “apocalypse” the relationship between the pedestrian (driftwood) way of living and the living on the higher floors… pretty much what I teach… Although his language is a lot more lofty, a lot more “spiritual,” but he expresses what I am trying to say, maybe better than I do.


Some “visionaries” and “prophets” expect a huge and sudden shift in the world’s story sometime in the coming years. Most predict that it will be a sudden cascade of events that completely changes everything everywhere.
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