FOUR ADDICTIONS or why people whose job is to help you, can’t and won’t

Here is a quote from Rob Brezsny's weekly newsletter to illustrate that "For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong".

Answers that sound like solutions... but aren't... they just hide the problem deeper... so we get further away from the truth.

Our ability to pursue our dreams can be inhibited by four addictions:

1. an addiction to what other people think of us;
2. an addiction to creating melodrama in a misguided quest for excitement;
3. an addiction to believing we're imprisoned by what happened in the past;
4. an addiction to negative thoughts that fill us with anxiety.
(Thanks to success coach Tom Ferry for these ideas.)

The good news is that it is your birthright to beat all four of those addictions. The work won't come fast or early, and it may never be perfect. But it's quite possible

The above is an example of how coaches teach us. It's all surface. Simple, easy, and not true. 99% of what you find in books on the internet, in articles, is simple, easy, and not true.

Explanations exist; they have existed for all time; there is always a well-known solution to every human problem — neat, plausible, and wrong. H.L. Mencken

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Gurus who offer instant enlightenment, instant solution to your miserable life thrive… Ever asked yourself why?

people lining up for shaktipatEvery offer for something instant is a fraud. In every area of life... spirituality, health, weight, tinnitus, hair loss, erectile dysfunction, business, marketing, traffic, success, everything. But...

You flock to them. The main reason you come to my site is to find the "right guru" for you... The right instant solution.

17 years ago I met a guy and we started dating. He was weird, he did hands-on energies, spoke with a breathy voice, and had a guru. He told me that you don't choose your guru, your guru chooses you. He talked about shaktipat... where the guru touches you with a peacock feather and your kundalini rises and you have an instant enlightenment. He drank, took drugs, meditated, spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on energy attunements... I told you he was weird.

But he was influential to my evolution.

Through him I found out that I was an empath. He said clairsensar, but when I told that to people they didn't understand... but empath, it seems most people know what it is... so be it, I'll call myself an empath... Continue reading "Gurus who offer instant enlightenment, instant solution to your miserable life thrive… Ever asked yourself why?"

Impostor Syndrome – One stumbling block to becoming an Expanding Human Being

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It is puzzling to watch people not taking any actions that would make a lot of sense for them to take. They will cling, tooth and nail, to some status quo that only they see: it seems that they don't want to find out that they can, and they don't want to find out that they can't.

This relegates them into the status of has-been, or never-been. You can't hold onto anything, because anything that isn't growing is dying. And you can't become something more without growing.

Growing is risk: the risk that you need to find out that you are not as good (or not as bad) as you thought, pretended, claimed you were. Well... suck it up... but most people can't and won't.
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Updated: Soul Correction: Speak Your Mind aka reveal your secret agenda

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Update on 2/15/2014: I had an interesting conversation with a friend, where we were looking for politicians with this soul correction. And as we were working on finding them, I had an insight: the fundamental issue of this soul correction is DUPLICITY.

The inside and the outside are disconnected.
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Are you good? Are you bad?

15_im a good girl bibOur last Playground, earlier today, was on the topic of "good/bad."

It's a great topic. Why? Because you are limited by that, good and bad, more than most any other adjective: you want to be good, you need to be good, you pretend to be good, you fancy yourself as a good person, you sell your soul to be thought of as good. God will let you into heaven if you are good... you go to hell if you are bad... blah, blah, blah. Lots of greed, lots of suffering around good and bad.

As a foreigner I watch it with fascination. Good and bad is worn like a uniform, covering up a ton of anxiety.
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Your vibration and your world view… are you expecting to raise your vibration without changing your world view?

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I watched an episode of House 1 last night. One of the characters says to Dr. House: "But you are not curious!" The bells went off in my head. That's it! That moment suddenly made it clear to my why all my work has been ineffective with you, why you haven't become an Expanding Human Being, in spite of your good intentions, in spite of all my articles, activators, courses... Your fundamental view of reality hasn't changed, hasn't changed at all.

You live in a world where you consider yourself a thing among other things. Where you and others have the characteristics of things: fixed, permanent, unchangeable and unchanged.

That is your world view.
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Abundance, money, love, entertainment… Can they be yours now? Can Christie Marie Sheldon’s Unlimited Abundance take you there?

abundance as having all you needIn my previous article I write about the two dimensions a person can live, the horizontal dimension and the vertical dimension.

And in many of my articles I write that the part of you we can call Soul is actively seeking the fulfillment of its desire.
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