Why all techniques of increasing Emotional Intelligence are b.s. and not effecting the level of happiness, the level of well-being of people who practice it.
Same is true about the Emotional Guidance System of Abraham/ Hicks... b.s. and ineffective. Why? Because they are trying to change the fruits instead of the roots... Putting makeup on syphilitic lesions. 1 Or pimples, if you are squeamish...
Feelings are clean. They do four simple things. Make you go for it, make you stop, direct you towards pleasure and away from pain... They are the seed level. The foundation. 2Feelings are what guides you as an organism to feed yourself, to procreate, to stay safe, or to fight. To have a community to belong to, and to have enough information so you know what to do[/note.]
Her soul correction is Fear/Fearless. In the conversation it was becoming obvious that she had read the book "Feelings". I have been so excited about. So the conversation was on a more even footing that most of my conversations: she has been paying attention and recognizing at least some of the dynamics the feelings have, and has been managing her fear quite well.
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You have always wanted to get out of your head. You tried meditation, drugs, to no avail. Because the way out of the head is through the feelings... the body, where you feel the feelings. Your control center. Overriding the mind nearly 100% of the time.
A few of my readers use this blog to snap out of their funk. I used Ray Williams' Monday Morning Memo the same way... I also use Rob Brezsny's weekly horoscope the same way. My Sunday call with a friend mostly works out that way too...
We all need something that returns us to sanity, to coherence, and to get aware, again, what is important in life.
This article was especially potent for me this morning.
Twice in my life I had a choice to choose being attracted to women... I mean mainly.
The first time the choice was made for me: when the woman found out that I had no history of being attracted to women, she said: "I won't do that to you." I was about 22.
The second time I found myself turned on by a woman dancing, and I clearly saw a choice. I saw that I could choose to pursue that, but with that I would choose a life of hiding, a life of not fitting in, a hard life. I chose not to go for it.
As a sex therapist, coach, I talk to a lot of people.