Method one: What is my context that is keeping me stuck? Who am I being?
Is your desire for yourself (or your group) alone? Do others, outside of yourself or your group benefit if you receive what you desire?
Desire for yourself alone is the only negative energy in the Universe. And nothing, no charitable thought, feeling, or action balances it out.
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The next “recap” session, supposedly on Friday, September 9 at 4 pm (Maybe I should push it to Saturday?) will be about this skill… and outlook… get what you desire in a way that it benefits everyone…
It’s hard to answer, isn’t it?
After all seeing the whole big world with all its possibilities and opportunities is very hard when you live in a small box created by the mind, by the dominant beliefs, and your doom.
And it’s a big problem!
I asked a friend of mind what he would do if he were a millionaire. He said he would fly his private plane… That’s it. Could not see anything else!
I have been working on creating a communication course, but given that so many of you are stuck, and so many of you are having difficulty getting out of your minds: first things first:
Continue reading “Workshop: Get unstuck with the detached capacity”
Why would that be? Because my view of my life is stuck in a particular vantage point, you could call negative.
And those mornings, with the exception of a few, I look around for ways to unstuck myself. Not because I believe I can… but because I learned to do that.
This morning I read the Monday Morning Memo… and was inspired to write my own based on the same general idea.
I had no idea that I can do it, I had no idea if it would take me anywhere: I had the flexibility to do it.
Did I know it was going to unstuck me? Not really. And it did…
Something similar I do every morning. Sometimes I have to do it over and over and over, sometimes I get swept away by the joy of expressing myself…
And rarely, nowadays, I indulge my hopelessness for a day or two.
Continue reading “The process of going from hopeless to energized and in action: limbering up, becoming flexible”
I give a donation. Not big, just a little bit.
Make energy move. Money is energy
I have been doing this for about 10 years not, and every time the results are instantaneous, I get freed up, I breathe better, and I start to see opportunities where I was stuck just minutes earlier.
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Some ten years ago I had a neighbor, a woman, who had had a life of turmoil. Divorce, death of a child, alcoholism, bad friends. She had a niece stay with her. She went to the same school as this young man I spoke with today.
The girl, in her first year, got pregnant and dropped out of school. Exactly like her aunt.
Continue reading “Do we really have free will?”
It is projects that give substance to life, give you a reason to get up in the morning, other than that you didn’t die the night before, or that you have to go to the bathroom.
If you are bored, if you are listless, if you are stuck, if life has lost its taste, it’s because you don’t have a viable and worthy project.
This is most of you, because this is most of humanity.
A project is something with a specific, measurable, public result in the end. It is also nested in the larger project that is your life, but also larger projects that have the same direction, but are longer term with loftier end result.
Let’s say your goal in life is to die a millionaire. A million bucks net worth. Your net worth now is minus 37 grand, and you carry a lot of debt.
Continue reading “If you don’t have a project, you don’t have a life. How to pick a project that will take you where you want to go?”
- You grab onto something about what you hear or see, attach it to what you already think you know… and then either go deeper, or not, but definitely not go wider. Most people “think” this way.
- This is really the third way: no thinking… lol
- This is what I want to talk about in this article… holographic thinking. This is an uncommon way of penetrating the mysteries of existence…
Let’s define what we are talking about.
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A reader asked:
I have trouble understanding why you see A Bug Free Mind as valuable if 90% is rubbish and Andy is only 195 vibration. Continue reading “Activate the body, feelings, so you can reduce the time you spend in the unproductive mind.”
You can get stuck in lots of ways, but getting unstuck is almost always to same: a process…
Once you read the actual case-study, mine, I’ll go into detail of the process of unstucking yourself… Now read it!
As you know, as part of keeping myself sharp and on the edge, I have taken on a project to sell products on Amazon.com.
I had a hunch that it will be a challenge, but I had no idea how difficult it was going to be.
So, here I am, in my third month of my challenge, and I got to a point where I am just sitting, and feel absolutely doomed.
Continue reading “I don’t know what to do! I am stuck!”
The most important thing to know about procrastination is that it’s an avoidance tactic.
We all have it, it is a matter of degrees. Successful people, successful students avoid what they have to do, in this case doing their homework, less of the time. But just know: every time the idea of doing comes up: the idea of avoidance comes up too.
What is the difference between a student that chooses doing their homework and a student that chooses to do avoidance?
The difference is not so much in the moment, but in the students approach to life and studying in general.
Context is decisive, goes the saying. Context is the why of an activity.
Context answers the why would you do that? Why do you want it? To what end would you do it? What’s in it for you?
A good student has answered that question differently from the avoiding student.
A good student could have picked an goal, like getting educated, getting good grades to get into a good college, getting good grades to please my mother, learning to work my mind, etc. etc. etc.
A bad student considers learning useless, a waste of time, something that was imposed on them. They, potentially, consider liberty: doing what they want to do when they want to do it, and not doing what they don’t want to do… when they don’t want to do it, more important than freedom, what they ultimately crave. The freedom to be themselves.
Nietzsche, a famous German philosopher, called that behavior “infantile will to power”… which means, that when you do avoidance tactic, you are acting like a belligerent young child, maybe even a baby, crying for the bottle.
One of the most valued capacities for a human is maturity. Behaving and using your adult capacities… choosing, saying no, the ability to be with, and be effective in spite of negative emotions, pain, or bad thoughts.
And another invaluable capacity of an adult is to choose the context carefully, choose it to help them through the difficulties of dealing with unpleasant feelings, memories, and emotions, successfully, so they move forward in life.
The biological age of a person can be 70, but their behavior can alternate between 5 years old and 15 years old: I know, I have a client like that, lol.
Band-aid type solutions like the ones this following article teach are just that: band-aids.
As procrastination is part of being human, it is common to put off the tasks we are not fond of in order to do more pleasurable tasks.
Homework is one of the most common tasks that gets deferred. Although it seems impossible, it is possible to stop procrastinating homework assignments and have more time to spend doing more pleasant activities.
These simple steps can assist you in using your time more effectively.
First, ensure that you have a quiet, comfortable place to sit down and think. Ensuring that you have everything you need at hand to finish the task will eliminate unnecessary diversions.
Focusing on the task at hand without any distractions will make it much easier to concentrate and may allow those creative juices to start flowing.
Secondly, break homework assignments up. For example, if you have been assigned 20 math problems, dissect them into four parts. Give yourself half an hour to complete those five questions. Then, take a break. Allow yourself a few minutes in between to do something pleasurable such as calling a friend. This will help clear your mind and sharpen your thought process. Then, tackle the next five. Before you know it, your math will be done and you will have all the time in the world to just hang out.
Next, prioritize your homework schedule. Keep a planner or list your homework on a sheet of paper by due dates. Once you have started an assignment, don’t jump around. Starting one task and not finishing it before starting another can leave you feeling completely overwhelmed. Tackling one thing at a time until it is complete can give you a small sense of accomplishment which will boost your confidence and can keep you going. You’ll get better results too.
Finally, a great way to stop procrastinating homework and break bad habits is to alleviate mental stressors that can effect your ability to take charge.
Emotional Freedom Techniques can help you discover what those stressors are and fight them.
Being able to locate the source of the problem will help in conquering inadequacies in your everyday life. Emotional Freedom Techniques give you ways to stop procrastinating homework and help set you on your own path to emotional freedom. It is a great way for habitual procrastinators if other measures fail.
Emotional Freedom Technique based exercises help struggling students take control to ensure they are on the path to leading successful, powerful lives.
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