Authenticity is a matter of integrity on the highest level

lying-is-comfortableTrying to act like a Buddha won’t make you a Buddha.

I just finished a webinar… Before the webinar one of my students wrote an email to me wondering why I don’t lie to them before and during a webinar. Why I don’t say that it is going to be easy. That it is going to be piece of cake.

But it had taken me quite a bit of time and effort to learn that trying to act like a Buddha won’t make me a Buddha.

The vulnerability that honesty requires isn’t something everybody can handle. So lying allows people to be comfortable. Continue reading “Authenticity is a matter of integrity on the highest level”

Who are you? Beauty, truth or goodness? Let’s find out

I was having an interesting conversation with one of my students.

Because he wanted to write his thesis on the Feelings book, an unknown entity, he needed to gain his thesis counselor’s support. And maybe even his enthusiasm. Or he was going to be alone… and it was going to be a tough road to hoe. Continue reading “Who are you? Beauty, truth or goodness? Let’s find out”

Albert Einstein spoke about the levels of consciousness

levels of consciousnessI am very lucky: the questions my students send me have caused me to have a deeper understanding for my own work.

These students are often seeking new insights in their pressing circumstances from me. Lately it is all about making a decision to stay or leave, to let go or to fight.

It is a huge responsibility to talk to people who are looking for answers.
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How to make decisions the majority doesn’t make?

I am republishing this article so you can see how much my truth value have risen in the past 10 months with the current Playground… It is not just you who grows… I grow too.

In the noise of the world, an orgy of misdirection, it is hard to feel, see, hear the guidance…

Awareness, especially Self-awareness is missing…

You have been methodically and systematically trained to be unsuccessful

Who trained you? Other unsuccessful people. Your parents, your teachers, your PhD’s, your blog writers, your youtube Heroes.

And of course you buy their b.s., lock stock and barrel, as if it were the god honest truth.

I was somewhat lucky: my parents didn’t talk to me… so they could not mislead me. My teachers didn’t talk to me, there were no blogs…

But, unfortunately, as an empath, other people’s feelings that felt like mine, did mislead me and I paid for it dearly. Continue reading “How to make decisions the majority doesn’t make?”

A life worth living: What does poetry have to do with it?

love-truth-goodnessThe world is mundane. Ordinary. At least through ordinary eyes. It is just the way it is.

Some people see beauty, some people see truth, some people see goodness, but for the most part you see reasons to justify why you only trudge through life, never really seeing any poetry, any romance, anything really uplifting.

The Beyond, The Divine, The “Spirit” gets through to you through one of those, truth, beauty, goodness, and how you know it got to you because something echoes in your Soul.

You cry, you laugh, you shut up… words don’t come close to express it.

When I work with people on their life’s purpose, on the meaning of their lives, especially when I do it in a private call, I need to work a lot.

When I speak your purpose, as I see it, I hear you being hooked, being moved. Then you get off the call, and turn it into mundane… money, sex, or such other stuff, that makes life and you stuck in the mud. Continue reading “A life worth living: What does poetry have to do with it?”

How did you end up in the quadrant you are in?

How? Did you chose it… and you chose it by your early life experience? Was it given to you? How does that come to you?

Did you, maybe, inherit it? Is it a reaction of the divine to your parents?

It could be so many different ways!

Let’s look how it would happen by your early life experience, shall we?

Of course, it is not what happens to you, but what you say about it is what is your life experience. And it is influenced by your intangible capacities, already at that early age.

Let’s see an example or comparing two similar incidents, with two different choices.

  • Little boy wants to go left on the street corner. Parents are carrying heavy bags of grocery. They want the shortest way home, which is straight… parents go straight, little boy is left on the corner.
  • Little girl goes too slow for mother’s taste, or maybe she is running late. But the mother decides to go ahead at her own pace, and leaves the little girl in the street.

Obviously both kids were picked up and taken home.

  • The boy said: I have no power. I have to manipulate them better… I will choose beauty and perfection, a world where I am always right.
  • The girl said: I am heavy, I am worthless… But I’ll be different. I choose to love… in spite of all. I don’t need to be carried. I’ll go it alone if I must.

Makes sense? No. It made sense to the kids… and they set out their path in that decision. Set out what is important, what is worth it, what they will invest their lives in.

  • Here is a third story, another little girl. She has an even younger sister who probably misbehaved. The father banishes the little one from the house, and hour later sends the older girl to fetch her.

The 4-year old said: there is no justice. there is no love. there is no truth. I have no power. I choose beauty, and I choose dutiful.

I have a lot more examples… Here are a few more:
  • The little boy calls for his mother to wipe his a**. His father comes instead, and makes him stand up, all the “stuff” for the world to see. He decides that it’s important to keep people controlled… He chooses power over others.
  • A little girl, third girl in the family, envies all the attention her older sisters are getting… in her world, at her expense. They get the attention she should be getting. She decides that the way to live life is the hog everything of everyone… she chose power over others.
  • Yet another little girl defies her father’s instructions to not go out and play with kids outside. She goes, and gets caught. She decides the way to live life is to exercise power over everyone.
  • This little girl defies her mother’s instruction to not go into the ocean so she won’t be carried away by the current. She gets carried away by the current. The mother almost kills herself to save her little girl. The girls decides that this power thing works… and makes it her life.

By the way, these power people are no longer students. Why? Because they wanted to overpower me. Fat chance.

My job is to stay free and clear so I can coach you… But that is not what they wanted.

So what is the fundamental distinction between the choices?

I say the need for other people… or not.

  • Goodness says: I can stand alone. I don’t need anyone to approve of me, I don’t need anyone to like me, I am enough alone.
  • Truth says: I need people to agree with me. Beauty says: I need people to like me, to approve of me. And Power says: I need people to own, I need people to turn to my will.

Some famous power people: Benjamin Franklin, Jeff Bezos, Steve Jobs, Charlie Munger, Sam Walton
Some famous goodness people: Warren Buffet, Mark Zuckerberg

  • Truth people are mostly campaigners, for justice, for the “truth”
  • Beauty people… surround themselves with a lot of people, and in my humble opinion, don’t get much done.

Obviously I have just been scratching the surface of this topic, and haven’t been able to get deep. The truth value of what I am saying in this article is 60%… and it’s because 40% is not visible yet.

One of the questions, the 64000 dollar question is: can you change your decision?

20% chance, according to Source, that you are able to. Most of you are stuck with what you have: good, bad, ugly.

Your job is to make the best with what you’ve got.

And that, my dear, is the best advice for everyone. If you look closely, only 10% of the best starting point, of the best given becomes anyone worth listening to, or watching.

How does the saying go? Be Someone Worth Reading Or Writing About. And you can accomplish that with any quadrant… I promise.

The distinction is: You can, but will you?

And a bonus assignment for those of you who know him: What quadrant is Tai Lopez in? Please comment below, or if you are stingy, email me. You can put Anonymous for your name, and no one but me will know who made that comment.

PS: here is what is not true in this article:

  • you don’t get to choose what inspires you.
  • the quadrant of power is the power over yourself… not others

If you want to work on yourself and clear yourself up to be able to hear the divine guidance, come to the Self workshop


How does the divine try to guide you?

What do you want, really? or asked differently What do you really want?

The answer is in the values you choose to love…

I have been harping on values… and it is as if I were speaking in an auditorium where my voice doesn’t, can’t carry… there is no echo. 1

Nothing and no one indicating that they are hearing me, that they are pondering, that the question is heard and taken on as a quest to answer, to ponder, to be taken with you to sleep, to your meditation, to your walks, so you eventually come up with something you value.

Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.

Community cannot for long feed on itself; it can only flourish with the coming of others from beyond, their unknown and undiscovered brothers.

During times of war, hatred becomes quite respectable even though it has to masquerade often under the guise of patriotism.

– Howard Thurman (1900 – 1981)

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Become someone who can make good decisions

Is it worth it? Is it worth the bother, the effort, the work? Will it get me finally what I want?

One of the reasons people don’t like to try new things is because they cannot judge whether they can do it or not. Whether it will be easy or not. Whether it will be pleasant and enjoyable or not.

How come? Why is it so difficult? Life is complex, and most of us have no tolerance for complexity. Complexity, ambivalence, ambiguity are normal, but the capacity to hold them becomes available to you in only at a certain brain development age… If you got stuck in young child brain development, that is most people, you have never developed the capacity.

Can you develop this capacity now? Of course you can. What is preventing you from doing it? Your low TLB number… you are a Twitchy Little Bastard… and you can’t deal with complexity, confusion, or looking long enough to actually see something.

Some of my students, when they learned about my habit of looking long and more than just once… as a way to deal with my dyslexia, have started to practice the same… and their ability to hold controversy and ambivalence has increased… because of that practice. But if you fancy yourself smart, quick, etc. Looking long and hard is going to be difficult, because your precious I will tell you that only stupid people look long and hard.

Actually the opposite is true: your precious I is deceiving you and keeping you… eh… stupid. In the stupid as the stupid does sense. Continue reading “Become someone who can make good decisions”

How Does The Universe Get To You? Are You A Truth, A Beauty, Or A Goodness Person?

the triangle is the truth, the circle is the beauty, the heart is the goodnessI’ve been weeping for an hour or so. It is the tears of the soul.

The trigger: thinking of Billy Elliot, well known to many: where the spirit had a chance to fully express itself through a human: a rare phenomenon: we seem to have a hard time hearing the gently nudging of the spirit. By spirit I really mean the soul: I use the words interchangeably. In Hebrew: ruah, neshama, nefesh: they are different states of the same soul: expressing where the soul is with regards to its correction, with regards to becoming like God. 1

The other movie is “Together,” a 2002 Chinese movie about a young violinist, whose father, tirelessly grooms him and pushes him to be a top performer. We, together with the boy, find out that his father is not his father. The man who brought him up since he was a few days old found him at a train station with a violin next to him. He searched for the mother in vain, and he took it on himself to bring up the boy the way the mother seemed to have asked him: to become a violinist. 2
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Are you disappointed with yourself for not being higher minded, and achieving more in life?

be an empty spotFor years I’ve seen that humans, humanity, are stuck in a place where happiness is impossible, accomplishment is not predictable, and health is touch and go.

I’ve had big hopes, selfish hopes, that I will be the one to unstuck you.

Lots of other people have this hope… and the hopes remain hopes, because you have a vested interest to keep what keeps you stuck in place? If we knew what keeps you stuck, maybe we could unstuck you.

This article is an attempt to identify that one thing. The linchpin issue.
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