It doesn’t matter what you know, it only matters what you do

I am still in the middle of finding all the ways I screw myself.

I am seeing something that, of course, I am not alone with. I am soo proud of what I know… but, of course, in life the only thing that matters is what you do. What you actually do. Not what you can do, not what you plan on doing, but what you do.

In games, at work, in your growth… Bummer.

I know so much… but it is all mind candy, unless what I do comes from that knowledge.

Some more than 50 years ago… yeah, I know, most people weren’t even born yet, I had a chance to learn this, but I didn’t.

Budapest, 1969. I was sitting in the department head’s office with two other students. Architecture school. Structural calculations exam…. called Statika in Hungarian. Continue reading “It doesn’t matter what you know, it only matters what you do”

The third brain… immersion: the secret to mastery

There are, in my experience, three thinking brains, at least potentially, in every human…

The first thinking brain

The first thinking brain, the mind, that is in cahoots, in collusion with the selfish gene, works against you. That is what creates a life of reactivity, full of fear, full of anxiety, full of sharp turns and devastating jerks. I’ve lived there… and I hated it. Continue reading “The third brain… immersion: the secret to mastery”

If it is easy to get, then it is worthless…

One of my students gave me a kindle book for my birthday.

It’s a book about practicing, for teachers. 1

The gift book came right on the heels of an insight I haven’t shared with you.

I finished my third reading Ayn Rand’s 1500 page philosophical novel. I still don’t have my own words to say what she says.

I have one sentence, that is now mine, that I own, and the sentence is “A is A. If you wish it to be something else, then you are delusional.” This is the cornerstone of Ayn Rand’s philosophy, objectivism.

I am able to own one distinction. From the 1500 pages of dense philosophy.

I am OK with that. It’s a process.

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Impostor Syndrome – One stumbling block to becoming…

writers-block-4This article is an old one… republished here…

It is puzzling to watch people not taking any actions that would make a lot of sense for them to take. They will cling, tooth and nail, to some status quo that only they see: it seems that they don’t want to find out that they can, and they don’t want to find out that they can’t.

This relegates them into the status of has-been, or never-been. You can’t hold onto anything, because anything that isn’t growing is dying. And you can’t become something more without growing.

Growing is risk: the risk that you need to find out that you are not as good (or not as bad) as you thought, pretended, claimed you were. Well… suck it up… but most people can’t and won’t.
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It’s hard but it is not hopeless… Filling the holes in your education

I have shared with you my experience as an architect… what ultimately failed me or made me fail… and want to quit.

But I’ll repeat it here, in the wake of a TED talk I just listened to: the tendency of life and formal education to march on leaving you with holes in your understanding, holes in your knowledge.

In the third year of my studies I spent nearly the whole first semester in and out of hospitals, 10 weeks out of the 14 weeks. I manage to get a passing grade, but, looking back now, I would have been better off, had I been forced to repeat that semester a year later.

I had a big hole in my education. I could have had more than one hole… but I had one…

I never had any confidence as an architect that point on. This was in 1969, and I quit the profession in 1988. 19 years of living with inadequacy, impostor syndrome, fear of getting found out. Continue reading “It’s hard but it is not hopeless… Filling the holes in your education”

Why I was miserable for 17 years… I didn’t know until now

hey coach...As I said in a previous article, I am reading the book, The One Thing.

Most books, just like Tai says, are one-gold-nugget books. Tree of Knowledge. This one is full of gold nuggets. The One Thing book is a Tree of Life book

The nugget I discovered yesterday may be the most important thing I have missed, and I see others miss…

It is and have been in plain sight but at the same time it is invisible, like most new distinctions. Until you see it, you don’t…

The nugget, this new distinction, is the foundation for the Ben Jonson quote from Poor Richard’s Almanac: “He that is taught only by himself has a fool for a master” 1

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The “and” game… What your resistance says about you

bad attitude, the attitude of resistingI got lucky today. I got to see something I haven’t seen in a long time.

It’s been many years that I “shared” with anyone.

Sharing is a Landmark Education distinction: you talk about some gain in your life, in a particular way, and if you did it well, the other person gets a tiny bit more than just a whiff of what you are “sharing”; they get a taste of it. A taste of your gain…As if you’ve given them a bite of your triple chocolate fudge cake… lol.

We were both early for the exercise class, and she was really relieved that she wasn’t going to be the only student…

As I was changing to shorts, and gym shoes, I asked if it would be OK with her if I bragged… And she said yes.
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The 40 golf ball method of growing yourself and your life

the 40 golf balls method of growing yourselfHow 40 Golf Balls Can Make You a Better Entrepreneur

I found the following article on Linkedin. And I thought that publishing it, without editing it is a good idea, because the lesson the guy teaches, 1 is showing where and how you miss the ball, no pun intended, and what it is you can do to apply it to your spirituality, to adding spiritual capacities to your arsenal, to raising your vibration, to going from where you are to where you can get to.

One of my students, I’ll write more about him after the golf-ball article, down the page, wrote to me last night:

He went to a comedy show with other entrepreneurs…

The comedy show was good but I don’t understand any more why people have to get drunk to have a good time I forget what it’s like and after 7 years of sobriety there is no desire to do it but man people become idiots I’m not judging it is just interesting I was observing people all night they came in shy then an hour later they are making asses out of themselves. The way I always look at it is I will feel good tomorrow and they are going to feel like shit so is it actually worth getting drunk when I can get high on life

When I first met this guy, he was so far from getting high on life, it’s not even funny. But he actually used the 40-golfballs method, instinctively… and look where he is now
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Is Sophie enlightened? Has she attained to whatever?

Often (too often!) people write to me telling me that I am not supposed to get angry, not supposed to be stingy, not supposed to be on thing or another…

Why? Because enlightened means, according to them, forever joyful, forever happy, and rich, rich, rich.

Having smooth youthful face, a radiant smile, and a slim body, if you are a woman. Men have no such requirements. They can be ugly, they can be a predator, they can be even disgusting looking. For men it’s OK.

So, what is the truth about enlightenment? Is there such a thing at all?

The answer depends on who you ask, but whoever you ask: they are speaking from Tree of Knowledge.

Why? Because if you say ‘I am enlightened’ according to scriptures you are lying.
And if you say ‘I am not enlightened’ you don’t know what you are talking about…

Enlightened is a trick. Just like it is a trick to call Jesus (if he existed at all) the son of god.

It is to feed the masses with inferiority… you are not like that. Creating a caste system.

Or alternatively, since the last century, anyone who can say ohm, and sit in the lotus position is ‘an enlightened master. I just found a new ‘enlightened master’ Ibrahim Hassan in Egypt. He has 10 spiritual capacities, personal vibration 170, and truth value less than 1%

Keywords:Description:
enlightened masterspiritually aware: having a good and accurate grasp on how reality is… This is the dictionary meaning. When I listen to people, they say: enlightened with reverence… so, I guess, their meaning is something like approaching god-like.
enlightened master ibrahimibrahim-hassanI both listened to this person, and watched this person with the audio off… Both times I felt his impostor syndrome, I felt that he listen with the mind and speaks from the mind. None of what he says is his personal experience. Fake…
enlightened master ibrahim hassanAs I said, bs artist.

‘, a guru, and your job is touch their feet and sit with them so you can entrain yourself to their vibration.

But my measurements of any guru is that they were and are low vibration, full of anxiety, impostor syndrome, who abused their power and had no integrity.

So the so-called enlightenment, looking through the ‘enlightened ones’ is a scam to create a them and you… hunger and greed for enlightenment, no mind, silence, and such.

So the result is more anxiety, more pretense, and more misery. Wahoo… success?!

My claim to fame is not what I have attained to. My claim to fame is that I don’t ask you to do anything I am not willing to do, and 90% of the time I actually do, when I ask you to do it.

My claim to fame is I am a ‘man of understanding’ using Osho’s wording, Osho’s expression. That simply means that I don’t say something from my head, I look, I see, I say.

And given the number of years that I have been doing this, I see a lot more than anyone I know, and a lot more accurately. That is not to say that I am accurate 100% of the time. According to muscletest, I am accurate 93% of the time. 7% of the time I am off. How off? Off…

Compared to the 2%-10% truth value of others, I am up there, but I am not 100%.

Now, with that in mind, that is only when I speak. And mostly when I speak about you to you.

When it comes to me, I am wrong 20% of the time. Why? Because it is very hard to see your own self.

So if I lived till 120, I still would not see myself accurately, even though it is a daily occurrence that I see something I was wrong about.

Can you be with me, can you trust me if I am only accurate 93% of the time? And that with double-checking myself with muscletest, really frequently… Without that I would be wrong a lot more often.

Some people, especially if your soul correction is ‘Silent Partner’, have a serious issue with trust.

It is because you are afraid to trust yourself. Because you have an eye for mistakes you make… and you even pay more attention than others.

So your issue with self-trust is projected to others in the world, and you’ll have a hard time trusting me.

One of the fundamental missings, for a lot of people, is self-trust, the ability to say: if I screw up: I can handle it. If I succeed, I can handle that too.

Self-trust is the ability to say: I can handle it.

When self trust is turned on and is working, you stop resisting, you stop procrastinating, you stop avoiding what you are not sure about… and become an expanding human going on expanding human being.

Because lack of self-trust is preventing you from that…

The activation is, on your end, is quite simple: you need to do, for three days, things you are not used to doing: taking risky steps, talking to strangers, asking for help, taking wrong turns driving, taking on assignment you are not sure you can fulfill but are going to.

It will not eliminate fear: I am still afraid from new things… but I am rarely stopped by them. Now that I have included being homeless as something I can be with… I can see that I can handle a lot more… Jail? dealing with authorities? Still scares the living out of me… So self-trust is 70% working.

And this is what you should expect with every capacity: it is a 1-100% thing… For example, generosity is only 30% active and working for me. I still interrupt people, I still connect their success with my no-success and react with anger…

Whether I am ‘enlightened’ or not, I am still human.

PS: If self-trust is your big issue, here is the link to order the activation of self-trust. Self-trust is sorely needed for most of the things on the Tree of Life.

Especially it is needed when I ask you to choose something, or invent something, as in the upcoming Invent Your Self course…

Don’t be hungry! Don’t be eager! Don’t be hellbent on success! Don’t be infatuated!

grocery_hungryMany people may say to you: to be successful, you need to have fire in the belly. You need to be hungry.

So people, maybe you, beat yourself into a feeding frenzy, and set out to conquer the world.

Your mother said: don’t go food shopping when you are hungry. Why? Because when your belly calls the shot, your higher faculties take leave of absence, and you’ll make horrible decisions. You’ll buy everything you should not eat, and enough food for ten. I have done it… horrid.

It is when the tail wags the dog.
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