Can you listen while you talk? Do you listen while you talk?

As usual, I started my day with emails, because, surprise, I wasn’t aching to tell you something… I had nothing to say.

That doesn’t stop millions, maybe billions of people from talking nonsense, I observe, and in fact I myself was labeled chatty Cathy, or chatterbox in English, or Dumás Dusi in Hungarian.

I have a neighbor whose daughter, around two, is like that. Cute… but must be incredibly tiresome for the parents.

I also have students who, when allowed, talk INCESSANTLY.

Surprisingly or not, the more you talk the less what you say matters, the less anyone will believe you, the less worthwhile it is to listen to you.

Now, apart from the systemic judgment, whether it is good or bad, useful or useless, or even if what comes out is valuable or worthless… what else can we say about talking?

I watched a little commercial this morning… Continue reading “Can you listen while you talk? Do you listen while you talk?”

Unless you can repeat the words, you didn’t get it, you didn’t learn it, it is not useful…

If you never learn… then most likely you are a SKIMMER

Most people read, listen, watch, and don’t, can’t recall names, places, and the exact words in a book, and audio or a video.

And yet, most people feel that they learned something… while in essence they were, maybe, impressed, but didn’t learn.

When I recommend my students an audio program to use as their tool for growth, especially to keep some capacities on, people fail to use those that way… just as they think they are looking, they think they see when they look at things, but they don’t.

I am not sure why, but people don’t pay attention to most anything, and that is why they are so low vibration, low everything, because they don’t even mean to. Continue reading “Unless you can repeat the words, you didn’t get it, you didn’t learn it, it is not useful…”

How full is your toolbox? Planning to dig a well when you are thirsty?

One of the common characteristics of people I meet is that they have no skills, no tool box, they are waiting for the right opportunity to do anything. They will start to learn the right skills when they need them, when they’ll know what they want to do. And, of course, it is too late to dig a well when you are thirsty… they languish of thirst…

I am a lot like Bob in the movie “Bob The Butler”.

I am inspired by that movie to do even more skill building to fill my tool box.

I am 70 years old. I have 27 skill sets, 27 ways to make a living. I am an architect. I am a brick mason. I can lay wooden floor, I can lay tiles both on the floor and on the wall. I can hang wallpaper. I am a plumber. etc. etc. etc. One time I counted. I have forgotten more professions than you know how to do.

What did this do to me? What did this do to Bob, the butler?

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The connection between how you listen and how alive you are…

You listen… approximately. And your life can be no better… you are at best approximately alive.

Your powers of distinguishing the relevant from the irrelevant, the worth listening to or the noise, the worth reading or the noise, the worth knowing or the noise are not even on a kindergartner level.

Why? Because you have all these amazing human abilities, but you don’t use them.

When I tell you to practice the Amish Horse Training Method, and I explain that the way it goes is that the Amish farmer ties the young horse in training to a pole next to a busy highway, and leaves it to deal with the noise of the highway for 30-60 days. Continue reading “The connection between how you listen and how alive you are…”