Am I weak? Are you weak? What is the inside stick? How do you activate it?

Motivation... it is either a stick or a carrot...

And it is either an inside job, or an outside job.

I am more motivated, more nudged on to do a move, to do something, to make a change in behavior by the stick than by the carrot... the inside stick...

Most carrots promise you some goodies... goodies you don't already have, or more of what you already have. But human preference is not in that direction. No matter how trapped you are in desire, wanting, being induced to doing anything for what you want is really rare, unless it is for instant gratification. 1

The stick promises to take something away. Life, goodies, love, self-love, comforting lies about yourself. And that is the main motivation to take action for people. The threat, the "promise" of loss. Continue reading "Am I weak? Are you weak? What is the inside stick? How do you activate it?"

Coherence: what is it and why you should strive to have it?

Coherence

I just moved my sites to a new, bigger server... made the jump after about eight months of waffling... I waffled because of the money, waffled because of the technical challenge, waffled because I didn't want to do it...

But on New Year's Eve I did it, and was bracing what was going to be a lot of work, but more importantly a rare occasion for me to face the tiger: I am not the smartest person on the planet.

Not even close.

I never was... by the way. But since i have repurposed my brain cells to do the inner work for seeing, I feel stupider, if that is even possible, than before. Continue reading "Coherence: what is it and why you should strive to have it?"