Remorse, regret, self-recrimination

Remorse is the ability to humble oneself and healthily repent for past mistakes ~ Ryan Fan

I remember being in a Landmark program, years ago, that railed against the 3 R’s… regret, resentment, and I don’t remember the third. But they were wrong.

I have more time nowadays, and I don’t hurry and run away from bad feelings.

Bad feelings are good. Really good. You should take time to hang out with them, and spend some time in their company.

They are cleansing. They are integrity restorer. They are good for you. They would be good for you to use them as a guidance system once you take the time to feel them.

One thing I notice in the partner calls in my Playground is that people cheerfully notice ‘desire to receive for the self alone’ in their stories, present or past, and they are OK with them. Continue reading “Remorse, regret, self-recrimination”

What are guiding feelings vs. emotions? Are you guided to look away? Run?

I would never have thought of asking this question prior to reading Margoczi’s books, Feelings and Words a few years ago.

The truth value of those books is about 40%… more for reasons of omission than for reasons of false teaching.

I have learned in Landmark Education that regret, remorse, resentment, the “infamous” three R’s are useless, and harmful.

I dare to differ.

  • They may be useless if you are unwilling to take responsibility for what they are signaling.
  • They may be useless or harmful if you make them your mood for life… pretending that you are a victim… you were never a victim, although you may have had abuse, misuse, or failures in your life.

What makes you a victim (also called an effect) is the unwillingness to take responsibility for what belongs to you… Continue reading “What are guiding feelings vs. emotions? Are you guided to look away? Run?”

Can depression be alleviated with coaching? A coach reports…

Life wants more life… and when it can’t… when it is not forthcoming, it puts you into depression.

I had a small private workshop yesterday to test out a methodology that works for me to unstuck me every time.

Without a reliable, count-onable, potent method to unstuck yourself, you may get stuck in misery, inactivity, depression, for a long time.

What moves life, what gives a sense of living, is movement. Upward movement.

What many of us experience is deadness, or the dread of downward movement. It feels that movement, action, is futile

The depression resulting can last days, weeks, months… Depression recreates its cause… no movement. Continue reading “Can depression be alleviated with coaching? A coach reports…”