Mine is, definitely, feeling like the only one who can be trusted. If I cannot be the only one… I am not even interested. Messiah complex… lol. Very funny.
What I need for this Dark Side to prevail is people who are not able, not willing to rise to the occasion… in spite of all my efforts.
I spent last week in that space… I am the only one, bah-bah-bah, sob-sob, hate-hate.
I was watching it with curiosity, not with resistance, and it left. On its own. It could not survive observation, it could not hide because of curiosity.
This is true for anything from the Dark Side… it can thrive, run your life, only if it is not observed with sober eyes. Or amused… Instead, it is resisted, it shouldn’t be, etc.
As long as you can’t find yours, you are still either completely unaware, or are in denial about it.
The assignment I gave in my article about finding out what you have and work with that… your solutions said pretty much everything about your Dark Side, or at least your technique to avoid looking at it.
- you emphasized what you don’t have
- you emphasized that you had a breakthrough in spite of difficult circumstances
- you emphasized that this is how you live, so nothing special
- you emphasized that you had to get through confusion to do it
Now, before you get all up in arms to fix your Dark Side… consider that you are doing everything to eliminate your dark side…
Dark Side that you want to eliminate thrives, but goes underground.
All your breakthroughs, all your shares illustrate a temporary victory over Dark Side… no growth in that.
So, what is going on?
As long as your attention is on eliminating what’s wrong, with you, with them, with it… you are stuck.
Life is about movement. And you are not moving.
Even my star student wanted to move to another country before he could live his dream life…
A coach’s job is to make you move. Anywhere. Sideways, backwards, forwards, just move out of the stuck state where your life’s focus is to fix something that is wrong.
Real movement doesn’t fix anything.
I have not many shares to publish that are about real movement.
Tons of shares to publish about flash in the pan victories. It must be the culture… Landmark Education shares are like that too… They even teach you to share that way.
People who actually move, leave Landmark Education… and if I didn’t coach, they would leave me too.
There is no way to have what you want in life, without movement.
But your foot is still nailed to the floor… So you’d rather have a victory, and another one…
While perpetuating the Dark Side… your excuse for not growing.
Today could be the day where you open your eyes, take off your blindfold or blinders and look: what the heck is your dark side?
Catch if you share: in spite of limiting circumstances I was creative, excellent, productive, unstoppable, etc. You want to catch what comes after “in spite of”
And then please share it with me. Best to do it generously in the comments area of this post… But you can email me, if you are still intent on hiding it.