One area where every student of mine is lacking is communication. When suddenly they do something that I consider communication, I cry. One of my recent articles brought a furry of communication… but it was a “fluke”, an accident, a one time event.
What is communication, really?
The dictionary says: conveying information. Bah humbug.
The purpose of communication is to get what you want from life, through other people.
Communication is a tool. For the most part the purpose of communication is to get what you want from life, through other people.
If the purpose of life is survival, and survival is more guaranteed if you get what you want, then communication is the most needed tool.
Communication works, 70%. through words. The right words, put in the right order, with the right effect.
The effect is that your words create the results you wanted… or not… Simple.
But, you lack the most of the ingredients.
You don’t have the right words, you don’t put them in the right order… and you don’t get the right effect.
Most of you blurt out stuff… and you get grief, pain, or just plain no results for it.
Communication is a lot like growing vegetables. You need to create a fertile ground to receive your seeds or seedlings… or your seeds or seedlings will die.
You need to water it, you need to weed it, you need to protect it from too much sun…
What you did yesterday will not save your plants today.
When you observe yourself you don’t consider any of this.
And your pay, what you earn, is grief, animosity, self-hate, or hate for them, for life, for all of it.
My first foray into transformation was a communication course.
I had no idea what I learned… it went straight into “adjusted instincts”.
I became a heated butter knife… and the world became my butter. Suddenly there was nothing people wouldn’t do for me.
The same people who previously hated me and shrunk away even from being close to me, being in the same room.
I had no idea what happened. Later on I learned. I did that same course again and again and again.
It’s no longer an adjusted instinct… but I can pull it out and “use” it with the same kind of success I did 30 years ago.
Being immersed in a world with no communication, a world of objects bumping up against each other, a world of groans, a world of animosity, I got infected… Add to that what I found out in the upsets webinar… and you’ll get the picture… not pretty.
I am committed to recapture the magic and turn it into adjusted instincts again…
My hunch is that the “upset” process will lead to that again.
Because, believe it or not, how you communicate is intimately tied with the string of upsets your life has been.
I am working with a small group now…
I am doing a makeup session later today, instead of doing my usual Talk to me… session.
If you want to do the second part of this process… and the subsequent communication “course” I am going to build on it, then come to the session at 4 pm, NY daylight savings time.
- You need to have good audio, or I won’t work with you.
- You need to be able to follow instructions or I won’t work with you.
This is a gift, and I reserve the right to refuse to give it to someone, who, in my opinion, in my experience, can’t use it. This includes even students who are not up to the task.
OK, I’ll summarize what I just said:
- 1. The first part of the upset process (disappearing upsets) is at 4 pm this afternoon. You need to register. I’ll send out a reminder… if you don’t get one, you are not registered.
- 2. The second part is on Sunday at noon… by invitation only… in fact I register you myself.
- 3. If I deem you suitable for the experimental communication “course”, I’ll send you an invite. It’s free for my paying students, and it will have a fee for non-students. How much? I haven’t decided yet.
If you get what I teach: it’s priceless.
My goal is not to take anyone who cannot, or won’t get it. Why? Why am I not willing to give it to anyone?
Because this is not a “for profit” venture, this is a labor of love.
And love isn’t nurtured by your resistance, whether intended or not.
Can you come and just get the free upset process? Yes. You can.
No sales pitch. None. Not my style.
Not mentioning the fact that we are talking about an experimental process/course. I had an insight… and I see a path opening up, a path that was never there.
I know it can work. I know my students know they need it.
But you? I am not sure about you.
Back, 30 years ago, I needed what I learned really bad. It was a life or death issue for me. So I was like a sponge, in spite of the language barrier (I did the course in Hebrew).
I got what I needed, and my life will never be the same.